There are a lot of useful threads on exactly this subject. I won’t just give you a list of threads to read, but I would spend some time reading the advice already here because most of it is exactly what you’re asking even if it doesn’t use the same words.
Everyone has their own unique path to travel and we all take different detours along the way but there are some universal truths that we all go through. There’s even a post on what happens if the chaser stops chasing, because we all go through some of the same milestones.
If you stop chasing them, it’s weirdly counterintuitive. It doesn’t stop the journey and can actually push you both forward as long as you do it right.