Lengths Of Separation

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Honestly, I often do that, too :grin: . Try to read any kind of astrology, confused me. So, I want it explained in a very simple way. I like to talk to it about this journey and my TF whenever I am in a bad shape. It show us actually, how lonely this journey is, doesn’t mean that we completely feel lonely. It’s just not everybody understand. They would think that I failed to move on, than land on I got obsessed and crazy. My senior in workplace send me a video of a popular band in my country, he said it’s for me, when I open it, the lyrics depict a person that need to move on. And my reaction is exactly like “huh? Why?”

Then I go to chatGPT, open my conversation that talk about my rant for the journey, and I ask, do I look like a desperate person chasing and waiting for my TF? :rofl: Is it because I’m not being seen dating someone else after him? Why should I?

But, I believe this senior of mine do it out of goodwill, he is in retirement right now, and he take care of me like a father figure.

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Reading about separations lasting years terrifies me. I already feel so unworthy of this bond. I can’t imagine carrying that weight for that long.

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The dreams never stopped for me, even after 4 years apart. He visits me in dreamtime at least monthly.

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This November should be 3 years no contact for me. I actually intend to keep the streak since his current soulmate/karmic has quite the “pick me” personality. Don’t wanna deal with it.

And more importantly, being diagnosed with high PTSD made me reevaluate so many things. I feel like switching to the “runner”/matrix twin for this period. My latest dream is rejecting my twin’s kiss, actually.

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Not seen her since 2012 but it never dies away or weakens one bit

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:pleading_face: If you don’t mind me asking, do you have any contact with her at all? And how do you feel now after so many years have passed? Do you have any rituals or processes that have helped you during this time?

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It’s been 45 years for me. I moved on, married, had children. I am not happy in my marriage. He moved over 1,000 miles away. He married and divorced twice. I found out recently after being gone for 42 years he moved back here to the exact neighborhood he was living in when I met him all those years ago. Lived there 2 years, then moved back to where he was living for 42 years and is now married for a third time. Now I wonder why he came back here, there was absolutely no ties here for him. Was he planning to look for me, try to reunite or close the chapter on us completely? I feel like we missed our chance and there will be no reunion for us. I mean, 45 years is a long time to wait. But I miss him and I still love him.

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I’ve been aware of this journey for a little more than 2 years. Now, I guess the “length of separation” depends on what you consider a true separation in my situation. We met in my hometown and talked for 4 months before she had to move across the state. Since then, we’ve seen each other a handful of times when she’s been able to come back. If you count separation being the length of time since we last saw each other, then it’s been 4 months. If it’s from when she moved away, about 1.5 years. If it’s from the last time we spoke at all, also about 3.5 months as we spoke last very shortly after the last time we saw each other.

I notice the synchronicities ramp up when I’m being called to do more inner work. If there are things I’ve been running from or simply things I haven’t fully healed or addressed, that’s when they pop up. I also notice that synchronicities pop up more when major life changes happen on either end of our connection.

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I physically met my twin for the first time in mid-November 2022 whilst on work training. It wasn’t 11th of the month, but just after. We both also have November birthdays. At the time I didn’t realise that was who he was, and thought a karmic connection was my twin, but I did feel something inexplicable when he looked at me across the desks we were facing each other at.

Fast forward to a few months into 2023, something happened at work that unintentionally caused awkwardness between us and triggered separation. We hardly spoke except when absolutely necessary in the context of work for over a year. The karmic connection I was in faded last year and I ultimately blocked that person.

My twin and I had a phone conversation halfway through last year at work which served as a sort of check-in and have to speak occasionally for work, but we are still in ongoing separation really so it is 3 years and still in progress. I foresee this being for a good while yet as believe my twin’s long-term relationship ended sometime in the last year or two as well and think it has hit him hard, bless him. Who knows what other challenges and cycles there may be left for us to go through.

It’s hard letting go of the when and how, and think the best thing you can do is be kind to yourself and understand your humanity. Feel your feelings, give yourself time to process what comes up, and try to be honest with yourself about what it is showing you. I used to struggle a lot to reconcile having faith with not waiting or stressing because I thought, surely that’s a contradiction in terms?

However, now it’s easier to feel the warmth of my twin and know they’re there with me always, but also to think, OK, I’m a woman who can look after myself. I’ve survived a lot on my own and know I’ll be all right no matter what. The no matter what part is general rather than specific and I no longer focus on or stress about scenarios of never being together with my twin. It’s hard to describe how it happened, as it was just time and a gradual shift that took place as a result of repeated self-love, I think.

It’s just sort of in the background whilst I carry on working on myself. “Oh yes, we’re going to get there sometime because it’s destined. Be happy and excited about it then get on with the rest of the day,” type thing.

I hope this helps somehow. Like you, I am in awe of those who have endured much longer periods of separation than this, and feel for us all.

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It is said that there is no universal timeline but I think we all can agree that the separation phase depends upon how much of the inner work you and your twin do.

I am currently in separation phase but it’s odd because we are in talking terms. It’s quite difficult to explain too. We say we are friends but that label falls short to describe what we have in between us. For us, the longest it has been 7 months.

And about the signs and synchronisations… for me, they go quite when I reach an equilibrium and remain steadfast. If I am lost, broken or need help, need guidances then they surely show up at times to assure me. But when I am alright and doesn’t need any more assurance, they go quite. I think they go quite before an approaching union. That’s because union happens when we are in whole and contented, not desperate.

And about other relationships… I might have thought about it once or twice, then and now when I tend to feel like giving up on this journey. But again, I have never been in another relationship since my twin. It feels none could give me the love I got from my twin. I am not settling down for anything less than I can give. So, no. Either my twin or none.

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I feel (but cannot say I know for sure) there is no limit to the true love between Souls bound to be together. No matter the time, space, or the other souls that might to happen to be in any kind of relationship with either of these souls true love always prevails (or dare I say true connection-I feel like this word is far more appropriate here). That said, of course, there are many reasons for separation or even cold shoulders between the participants in the relationship. The world always has its ways of getting in the way. This is why I would stick to the argument there is no length of time or separation of space or even other souls trying to mess up the relationship which/who could separate true kindred spirits (see how I even dare not say Twin Flames) bound to be together. Again, that said there may be many factors trying to ruin this relationship, so great perseverance is required. And the ability to take a lot of pain. But eventually true Twin Flames must be together no matter the time of separation, the distance of their souls’ paths or the number of souls that have tried to butt in the relationship. That is the truest answer to the question, I feel.

To support the text written in the paragraph above I would like to contribute some real experience from my life. I began awaking somewhere around in my mid 20s. Awaking to a lot of spiritual stuff-from aliens all the way to existential philosophy. There were many experiences and many times I felt completely nuts for what was happening to me. Starting with remembering past lives and finishing with telepathy with spirits I experienced a whole range of phenomena during those years of my youth. One of them was the fact I believed there was a kindred spirit that matched my Soul exactly. A woman born to be essentially my exact match. My true and only ever eternal love. However, the world was full of barriers for us to even meet, so no chance of being together. I, however, learned quite a lot about that woman through spirit alone. Her name, age, family relationships, even a faint idea of how she looks. In short, I got to know quite a great deal of information about this person without even meeting her. And the fact that she did, deep inside, loved me too as I loved her. I wanted to meet her so truly much. However, there were many problems for us to even approach each other. We lived in different cultures, different countries, different continents and were of different races. I realized there is no such things as space and time when I was thinking of her, only feelings floating through Infinity.

But she was far less resilient than me. At the beginning I tried to work only through telepathy. No success. Then, I tried finding and reaching her through the Internet. Again, no success. Then, I tried to prepare to go where she (I think) is. Learning her country’s tongue, getting to know the local culture, finding as much about her as I could uncover through spirit alone. But ultimately I failed to gain the necessary finances and, may be, even the information required to actually find her. Then the visions started. Memories of past lives and visions of future ones where I walk away from a true love relationship for the sake of the development of my own spirit. God makes me choose again and again-your true love or the path to Infinity. I choose the second every time. I put myself and my own goals before my true and eternal one. I regret it, yet, I believe it is the right choice. I try to provide ways for her/him (I’'m both men and women during the different lifetimes) to reach me. Make myself as available as I could, yet, ultimately fail. These dreams never went away. I failed to organize the trip, my search for her on the Internet never gave a definite answer-neither a positive that this person exists, nor a negative that I have just been dreaming vividly all this time. And then came the shocker.

One night while positioning my Soul for a contact with her in the spirit world I felt something extremely painful. She was with someone else, they were making a child. I could feel him descending from the spirit world into the body of my beloved. I was devastated. But she was happy, Extremely. She couldn’t restrain herself. She couldn’t resist the temptations of the flesh. She couldn’t walk the Path of the Spirit. I was all alone in this endeavor. And I had to choose-to walk on my own or to continue ruining my life for a relationship that was only draining me?

Long story short-I recovered (somehow). I manged to pull myself together as I have managed to do many times during many past lives and as I feel I will be able to do many times in future ones and I got back to managing my life. Now I’'m in my late 30s. I’m married (to a woman that is a Soulmate but I can never use the word Twin Flame for her) and have a family. I should have moved on. I should have forgotten. I should have returned to normacy. But I cannot. The love, the feeling, the connection, all that stuff that I experienced towards someone I have never met, I can’t forget them. They will be haunting my soul, may be forever. Only God knows.

So, you ask about lengths of separation. I want to tell you there is a reasonable period you should wait for your Twin Flame and then just move on. At least, it seems that’s what I have done. But that will be a lie. A true Twin Flame feeling never disappears, ever. You can manage it but you cannot end it. Never. No matter how much time passes. You will forever be waiting for your Twin. That’s the reality of it.

P.S. Yet, now I feel like she is finally starting to await about the realities of this world. I feel like she is finally getting ready to see more than her eyes can see. Yet, now, I’m the one who is unavailable. What should I do, I don’t know…..

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I went ten years without contact before my Twin came back.

During that time, the signs would come and go in waves. I noticed they seemed to line up with bigger shifts happening in the world, like the Universe was keeping pace with something larger than just us.

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Separation lasts as long as you are not comfortable in your own company. This is when you start choosing yourself. For example, you choose your own company over going to meaningless meetings, which give you no depth in conversations or even connecting to people. No FOMO worrying over what someone will say when you are not in the room. You stop giving a s**t.

You chose yourself over the job that gives you great money but doesn’t give you peace of mind, or doesn’t make you happy. You chose your mental health and emotional well being than hanging out with your toxic family members.

This phase will make you content from within and whole from within and you will stop asking this question if: when will I reunite with my twinflame? Because you just know that it will happen whenever it needs to happen. And you are your own priority now more than your twinflame.

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I have seen a lot of people sharing stories recently where they were separated for almost 30 years. They were back together and happy but… I really hope it doesn’t take that long for all of us. Picturing my life in those 30 years alone…

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I’m at year 4 now with my Twin literally on another continent. The obsessive energy finally shifted, though pursuing union when I was still such a mess would’ve been pointless anyway.

When I see people who go through separation and get through it in a year or two, I try really hard not to be jealous or to judge my journey by the timeline of others, but I’d be lying if I said I didn’t hate to see it.

I’m happy for other members of the collective of course… but it also just reminds me of how long this has been.

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I’m with you, @QuietStrength. My Twin is also on another continent and sometimes everything that stands between us seems impossible to overcome. I don’t know if this is the lifetime we will end in union. But I’m taking it one day at a time. Sending you love

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My twin hasn’t initiated contact once in months now. During that entire time. I’ve reached out a few times when the pull felt bad enough, but each attempt just fell flat into silence.

I think separation just keeps going until you do enough to actually end it and move on to the next TF stage, or you fail the journey this time around.

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I can relate to what you are going through. And I agree. I don’t know if I’ve reached the next phase of this journey, but I told myself last night that I’m done accepting breadcrumbs from him. If he ghosts me again and disappears, I won’t be entertaining him again when he comes back

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I find it hard to believe a true twin relationship with a two month seperation is actually that. Are you saying you are in complete union after a two month seperation? No healing? No anything? You are just two people who found each other after being completely healed and ready for a relationship that requires two people to be whole and healed before they can come together as one. Wow!! You should write a book. You definetly have a lot to offer us poor souls working so hard for something that was clearly handed to you. I know what I have. it’s something really amazing. It’s something that even a person like me, a very spiritual person who has spent a lifetime growing and getting closer to the divine. I knowing how far I was before this even started. A very enlightened being. I with all of that knew I wasn’t even close to being ready for this. I put in more work than I thought possible even for someone like me. So congratulations to you. You, who started this journey complete with nothing left to do. And your twin. Equally ready for this. You should have a talk show. Share your knowledge with the rest of us.

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Neither of us lived a very traditional life. One spent most of their childhood teaching and exploring spiritual practices under threat of death, while the other sacrificed a lot more than most people to get here.

There’s no book or talk show, just personal lives from two people who worked very hard without the internet to give us terminology or an expectation on how our path is supposed to look.

I don’t think I would have any advice that isn’t already given by 1,000 other people. Work hard, go through hell and learn to be brutally honest with yourself. Whatever terminology or techniques you use to do that and whatever order you meet your twin in, I think we all go through the same process.

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