I know you are probably going through a hard day yourself. All of us have been in that situation.
But there is irony in calling yourself a highly enlightened being and then trying to gatekeep a spiritual journey from someone else @lou. You are free to follow your path as you choose, but that should not involve invalidating others. I would (lightly) suggest maybe taking a break from twin flame communities and content for a while.
I can understand the impulse but please be very, very careful with this. Every single study coming out is just a screaming red flag about what this is doing to people normally. If anything has the potential for ruining the twin flame journey I would 100% believe that this is it.
Completely get where you’re coming from and appreciate your concern. It is not my only source of information or advice, just one of them. Because most DMs are not only runners, but have avoidant personalities, my conversations circle more around how to deal with the psychology of that personality archetype as opposed to the spiritual side of things. I feel a good balance is sometimes healthy
Wait, I think I just had a lightbulb moment reading this. Setting that boundary isn’t you giving up on the connection. It’s you finally choosing yourself within the connection. That’s literally what everyone in this thread has been describing as surrender, isn’t it? It’s not about waiting passively or walking away entirely. It’s about refusing to shrink yourself down to fit into whatever crumbs someone is willing to toss your way.
That does make sense @Stopush. I’m not sure if what I am going through is part of the journey, but it is the first time I have drawn that line in the sand. I’m also slowly accepting the fact that perhaps this lifetime is not the one where we will end in union. And to be honest, even tho I have been on this journey / awakened for over 1.5 years now. I truly do not believe that my Twin even knows what is going on nor is he close to discovering what our connection actually is. He is on his own journey and from what I can tell, is comfortable in his routine life. He has a lot to overcome before he can even start to heal. I’m just not in the space or have the strength to hold space for both of us anymore. I gotta take care of myself
I have been in separation from my twin flame for 18 years, and just over 4 years total no contact. We are both married to soul mates but still love each other deeply, even deeper than before. I’m a divine feminine and got activated on this journey 2 years ago - when I learned about twin flames. But I’d say my DNOTS started 18 years ago as my journey inwards slowly began then. I have done so much work on myself, listened to my intuition and now finally in embodied inner union after a complete nervous system reset a few months ago. Surrender deepens. It’s a spiral. Everytime you think you have surrendered there is more to let go of. Recently I have been learning to love from love and with an open heart, and my inner masculine i snow holding me like never before. It’s been a brutal journey but these past two years have been growth on steroids !
This really resonates with me. I think that’s one of the most underrated aspects of the synchronicities. I don’t think they’re just being sent to make us feel warm and fuzzy or just like a general thing we sometimes just pass them off as. I think they’re probably meant as actual guidance we’re supposed to be taking ownership of. Sometimes gentle and sometimes not so gentle, pointing us toward the places within ourselves that still need attention. It’s almost like the universe has its own way of saying 'hey, you’ve been avoiding this, time to look at it.
Well, that’s not exactly a short wait, is it?
But, the fact that after 45 years you still carry that love says something that no amount of time or distance has managed to overwrite. And him moving back to the exact neighborhood where you met? That’s not exactly the behavior of someone who closed the chapter. People don’t casually relocate to places drenched in memories of someone they’ve moved past. They just… don’t.
I think sometimes we assume ‘missing our chance’ means the door is permanently sealed shut. But if this connection has quietly survived 45 years, two of his marriages, and over a thousand miles of distance, I’d say it’s been pretty stubborn about not going anywhere. The timeline might look a little unconventional, sure. But I don’t think the universe operates on a ‘you must redeem this coupon by’ basis.
You still love him. That’s not nothing… it’s actually kind of everything.
If I have to wait that long for my twin flame to decide, that’s when I need to move on, on my own.
I’ve been in separation for almost 20 years- but I didn’t become aware that I was on a TF journey until year 16- that is when the telepathy, signs, numbers and synchs started.
For me, the healing- and the person I became as a result of the journey has been the reward- more so than reuniting with the TF. And Iearning that he was my TF was such a relief. He wasn’t just some guy who lost interest. Our Bubble love phase was very sacred to me… and to this day no connection had come close.
My TF is a drinker, and it seems maybe a bit of a womanizer too… so as long as those are traits he is holding on to any reunion is off the table. I can only do me at this point.