My twin flame is ignoring me and I really need to know if this is something that happens to other twins. She takes DAYS to even open my messages now. Phone calls? Forget it. Texts? Lucky if I get a one-word reply after a week. This isn’t the first time. We’ve done this dance before. As far as I know, everything’s fine between us, then suddenly she shuts down and disappears. No explanation, no warning, just radio silence while I’m left on read.
I keep trying to stay connected, reaching out even when I get nothing back. Is this ghosting thing normal? Does it happen multiple times throughout the connection? Because right now it feels like I’m the only one fighting for us while she pretends I don’t exist.
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Your twin is never actually running from you. The same way as they’re not actually ignoring you. She is running from herself, from whatever the connection was bringing up in her. The intensity, the vulnerability, old wounds getting triggered. Sometimes (often) they don’t even know why they’re pulling away.
The hardest part is that you can’t force someone to stop running (there were some good stories about it here). More messages, backing off completely, angry texts, heartfelt letters. There’s no trick to it.
Keep reaching out if you feel called to (texting your twin can be tricky), but don’t lose yourself waiting for replies. The ghosting cycles do seem to get less intense over time and just remember it’s happening for a reason.
My twin’s Buddhist, I’m Christian. That made the whole silent treatment thing way harder to deal with. For him, withdrawing is this detachment practice thing. For me? Felt like he was just ditching me. Took me forever to get that his whole spiritual thing sees silence differently than I do.
Mine did this for 8 months straight. Complete radio silence. Then one day just started talking again like nothing happened. Still won’t discuss why he disappeared. We’re good now but I never got an explanation and honestly stopped needing one.
The energy between twins gets so intense that sometimes one person’s system just shuts down as protection. Like an electrical circuit breaker flipping. She might not even be consciously choosing to ignore you. Her energy field could be creating distance automatically because something feels too overwhelming. Have you noticed if this happens after particularly close or intimate moments between you?
When my twin has kids, the quiet spells take on a whole new level. He goes completely silent when he’s caught up in custody battles or his ex stirs up trouble.
Please don’t push them too hard in this stage. As tempting as it is. I know that sounds harsh, but constantly reaching out when someone’s clearly not responding just pushes them further away. My twin blocked me on everything when I wouldn’t give him space. Took two years to reconnect after that.
There’s an old saying about how mountains call back people who run from them. Can’t remember where I heard it but it stuck with me.
I went through this same thing, they’d disappear, come back, disappear again. Like clockwork. The timing was so predictable I could almost set my calendar by it. Eventually I just got tired. The back and forth was exhausting. That’s when I fially blocked them for good. Guess one of us had to be the one to say. Enough is enough.
This circuit breaker analogy is spot on. When my twin went silent for almost a year, I spent the first few months desperately trying to ‘fix’ the connection, thinking if I just sent the right message or found the perfect words, the circuit would flip back on. But that breaker wasn’t mine to reset. My energy was just adding to the problem. My desperation was adding voltage to an already overloaded system.
These phases can drag on for weeks, sometimes months. It can be tough when you’re deep in it.
Every time my person goes silent, I find something in MY life that needs attention. Last time she disappeared, I realized I was completely neglecting my friendships and pouring everything into waiting for her messages. The pattern breaks when you stop making them your whole focus. Not easy, but nothing about this is.
YES exactly! This happens before major union milestones, usually within 3-6 months of when reunion is supposed to happen. That energy surge you mentioned? That’s from the 11:11 portal activation right before separation hits. I’ve been tracking this and it’s always around 144 days of separation (which is supposed to be a divine number) for the vibrational recalibration thing.
We went through this ghosting cycle probably 15-20 times over six years. Each time got a little shorter, a little less painful. Now we can talk about it - turns out he was terrified I’d leave him so he’d leave first. Completely irrational but trauma doesn’t follow logic.
The universe basically puts them on hold while you do your quantum leap to the next frequency. Like you’re accelerating toward your union date rather than moving away from it.
When my twin went silent, I turned to tarot and kept getting the same cards, Divine Timing and Inner Work. Must have pulled them a dozen times. The ghosting periods are hard to deal with. You feel abandoned and wonder if it’s over. During these times, both people seem to go through intense personal stuff separately. The weird part is how it works, when I’d panic and try to chase them down, the silence would drag on forever. But when I’d give up and just focus on my own life, they’d randomly pop back up. Both of us would be different after these breaks, though not always in ways I expected. Sometimes better, sometimes just.. different.
Their hot and cold thing was so frustrating. They’d be super engaged one day, then completely ghost me the next. The inconsistency was the worst part. Never knew which version I was going to get.
It’s pretty normal from what I’ve seen (and given the other responses here)
I’ve been throwing myself into work and classes - basically anything to stay occupied. My twin is always on my mind, like every waking moment. At least when I’m busy, I get occasional breaks from thinking about them. The whole communication pattern is weird, though. Mine ignores my messages but gets upset if I don’t reach out first.
My twin keeps pulling away and I think she’s confused about it too. She makes up reasons like being too busy or whatever, but honestly she’s just freaked out by how intense this is. Realizing she’s not just making excuses to me but also to herself helped. Still sucks though. She’s basically hiding from feelings that don’t make sense to her.
The silence is usually when the most growth happens, just not in ways you can see. My twin vanished for 14 months. During that time I later found out they were dealing with addiction, divorce, and completely rebuilding their life and needed to do that alone. When we reconnected, we were both completely different people ready for something real.
Common for runners. They can’t handle the intensity of even thinking about you, much less read your words, and they have yet to figure out why, so just avoid it altogether. I believe most runners are of the avoidant attachment variety, whilst chasers are of the anxious attachment variety. It helps to look up information behind avoidant behavior, because insight, to me, makes it easier to cope with their hurtful behaviors.
My twin does this to me and it drives me nuts. The ghosting, one-word replies, leaving me on read for days.
The silence is literally happening for me as I write this. Two weeks now. What gets me is I can feel them missing me - it comes through in waves. But they still won’t reach out. It’s like they’re torturing both of us for no reason. Makes zero sense to my logical brain.
