It’s so confusing with her social media activity when she’s silent. She’s posting stories, liking everyone else’s photos, but won’t open my message? I’ve started doing ho’oponopono prayers whenever I see her active online. It helps me let go of the frustration I feel instead of getting caught up in it.
I used to be on the ignoring side of this. I didn’t really understand it properly at the time (told myself I was just busy) but was just reflecting my own internal stuff, whatever insecurity got triggered, I’d withdraw.
When the person who’s reaching out redirects their attention to themselves, the whole energy between you shifts. Like you’re forcing the situation to reset by removing yourself from it. The most effective thing when someone’s ignoring you seems to be accepting the distance and using that energy for yourself.
Currently experiencing the opposite, so maybe I can give a different POV.
I’m the one who keeps needing to pull away. The connection gets so overwhelming that I literally cannot function. It’s not that I don’t care, I care too much and it terrifies me.
Just offering perspective from the other side. We’re not trying to hurt you; we’re trying to survive the intensity.
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YES to the switching! It’s like we take turns wearing each other’s emotional patterns. I used to be the one constantly reaching out, checking my phone every five minutes. Then suddenly I found myself needing space and HE started bombarding me with messages. Complete role reversal!
Sometimes people think that when there’s distance or silence between two people, it’s a sign that things are falling apart. But actually, during these times, each person might be working through their own stuff and healing in their own space. It’s like they’re doing some inner work separately.
This hurts. It sucks. But it’s how you both get ready for the next stage.
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I’ve been through this same situation with my twin, and it’s definitely common. The ghosting and ignoring can feel really personal, like it’s tearing your heart out. This often happens when one of us becomes the ‘runner’, and it’s usually just a reaction to the energy flow between us.
When I pushed too hard, constantly reaching out and pouring my energy toward my twin, they’d pull away even more. It wasn’t something they did on purpose; it was more like an automatic response. The more I chased, the faster they ran. During these silent times, I had to focus on myself instead of the connection. It forced me to face my own fears and attachments. It wasn’t easy, but it had to be done. What helped me was focusing less on the relationship and more on balancing my own energy.
When I stopped letting their silence control my emotions, things started to change. Eventually, when I was more centered and stopped reaching out all the time, my twin naturally started coming back. You’re not alone in this. Many experience this runner-chaser dynamic. It’s tough, but it happens.
Been no contact for months after I ended things. The dreams are more intense now than they ever were when we talked daily. Didn’t expect that.
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I get what people are saying about the energy being intense. But honestly, when our twin pulls away, are we reading too much into it?
They could just be stressed about work or dealing with family stuff. Or maybe they’re going through something mentally. Doesn’t always have to be about the spiritual connection.
During the long silence, I kept quick morning voice memos (just a minute or two) saying the things I couldn’t send.
When my phone ran out of space, I wiped them, and she called later, saying she’d been dreaming about chats that never happened. I don’t have an explanation.
Yeah, that sounds like the separation stage, especially with how intense the runner/chaser thing gets. When one twin goes silent like that, it’s usually because the connection feels too intense and they can’t deal with it.
You still get stuff like in the thread about arousal during separation, but the ghosting part sucks though. Really does hurt like hell.
Just had coffee with a friend yesterday who’s going through this exact thing. She showed me screenshots of her twin’s messages - Monday he’s writing paragraphs about their future together, Tuesday it’s radio silence, Wednesday a single emoji response, Thursday he’s back to deep conversations.
Going no-contact might actually be easier.
There was a brief time on my TF journey where DM became the chaser. I did everything I could to avoid him. I couldn’t respond to his texts so he began to drive up the road at a time he knew that I would be driving down. I rearranged my schedule so I didn’t see him. I was literally paralyzed! I knew at the time that I had become the runner and I paid attention to how I felt. The weird part was that he was all I could think about. I wanted him desperately but for some reason I couldn’t move.
Just because there is silence doesn’t necessarily mean anything is wrong with the journey. We still communicate with our thoughts and our energy. We also need time to restore energy and focus on our own healing. The silence can be healthy, and without it, we couldn’t move forward anyway. The inner work we’re supposed to be focused on goes better when you don’t have contact.
My TF has had a complete shutdown and unfortunately I understand him enough to understand this shutdown..but he blocked me on everything, however has kept passive ties with me by other means (spotify and one of our offline shared spaces) It’s exhausting because it feels half-in/half-out..He is watching me from afar and it was something he confirmed when we spoke last month - he noticed my appearance change through my Spotify photo. What a strange way to notice. And he’s thrown himself into +12 hour work days and avoiding everything.
I’m trying not to focus on him and instead, focus on myself and do things for me so I can find joy within in myself🤍
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I’ve not had any contact with my twin since he moved office, apart from work related. I’ve been holding back, I’d sent a couple of chatty messages when we were in our bubble love phase and he’d responded once but I didn’t want to push it when he’s running. He’s messaged about work stuff and was all “Hope you had a nice weekend. Then, “Hope the rest of your day is good”. I gave him a thumbs up emoji in reply.
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My goodness. My Twin sent me those exact messages yesterday. I read your reply and laughed
My Twin and I just came out of a 10 month no contact phase. It isn’t our first time going no contact. Between May to Oct 2024, we went through a 5 month no contact. He reached out to me on my birthday in Oct 2024 and we continued to speak until Christmas 2024 sporadically. Then he dropped off the face of the earth. No reason, no fight. Just silence. I was in absolute hell. But it was during this time I grew the most
October 2025, he sent me a birthday message. And since then, he’s kept in sporadic contact. He’s called, texted, sent songs and photos. But I realised recently that when I initiate, he won’t respond. So I’ve just stopped. I realise now he’s on his own journey of figuring things out. These days when he reaches out, I meet him with the same energy he is giving me. But I’ve let go of trying to overthink or be anxious about our interactions and just go with the flow. If it’s anything the last few months has proven to me it’s that he hasn’t been able to let go of this connection either. But he probably hasn’t been able to explain to himself why.
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In short, yes. I work with my twin so have to be a bit careful what I say and do, but to most of the short emails I send to try and connect from time to time in 3D, there’s no reply.
He is under a lot of pressure at work daily and in addition to that he has been working on a higher education course for over a year. Obviously it would be nice to get something, but I am trying to trust that my support gets through to him and he just doesn’t know what to say. Perhaps (as I was told in a channelled message) words feel too inadequate to express what he feels.
In the hours after I’ve sent him something supportive I do get a warm feeling inside and a feeling of closeness between us. I think that’s confirmation that he read it and it meant something to him.
As another illustrative example, I sent him a nice message at Christmas saying I was going on leave, would miss him over the break, and a few other grateful and complimentary things. About two or three days after I sent it, he replied unexpectedly and I happened to see it as was checking my work emails. It was very simple, but meant a lot. “Have a good Christmas Galina. 
”
I think what they really want is for us to trust them and know they are always with us, even whilst everything is aligning and we are both doing what we need to do. I know if I put pressure and ultimatums on him he would run like a cat from that and, to be fair, so would I if he did it. I’ve come to understand that, if he’s not ready yet, neither am I, and turn my attention back to myself. I find a lot of comfort and purpose in work, hobbies, and self-care which helps. Our twins still want us to live our lives and do things that are good for us.
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Mine is going through a divorce. Before I knew what this connection was, I thought we could see each other alongside him getting his divorce, but I guess that was too much for him/the connection. It’s still going on as far as I am aware (it’s not an amicable divorce) and in the meantime, I remain in silence unless we bump into each other, and even then we catch up on surface level stuff. I have to just let him guide what he’s comfortable with while I get on with my life as best I can. He, as far as I am aware, has zero clue about the dynamics of our connection.
I pull tarot cards all the time, not just on the connection, but for the most part he’s at least one of the pulls I do. I worry I’m getting obsessive about the cards, but then am lot of the time they bring things up I didn’t realise I needed to deal with etc. I’m not an intuitive reader yet, so I use AI but find that the questions they ask me to further dive in are what really helps me see certain things I need to give attention to. It’s such a good tool I find in separation.
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Just let it ride… what is meant for you will be. What is not, will not be. Life will be good either way; you will survive.