Not Wanting to Be With Anyone Else

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For me the celibacy showed up right when my TF’s addiction was peaking. My body was almost ‘on strike,’ refusing to bond romantically with anyone until I stopped trying to energetically carry his healing for him.

I started redirecting that intense sexual/romantic energy into recovery work (Al-Anon, somatic therapy, creative outlets). The urge didn’t suddenly switch to wanting someone else, but it became less painful and obsessive. Your lack of interest might be your system protecting you while your twin works through their own shadow, so you don’t recreate that dynamic with a substitute.

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This disinterest might actually be serving your shadow work right now. Sometimes the experience strips away external seeking so we can face ourselves without distraction. I’d been using dating as avoidance - anything to not sit with my own wounds. That hollow feeling might be your higher self redirecting energy inward. Just a necessary redirection so you can do the real work.

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Being enough on your own, without them, without anyone really - that’s what matters most.

You can love this person or want only them for your whole life. But making sure you’re complete within yourself first is the real work.

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tldr: been having lots of progress in myself, but can’t “get off” anymore with my partner even though I want to be intimate, and was also shown a recurring dream about two roads leading to TF and the date of 1st of October.

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Lately has been really good! I have been feeling really calm, and a lot of things, inside and out, that used to cause me problems are no longer an issue to me or can no longer trigger me(I’ve been testing them and met with circumstances that would normally trigger them). I no longer feel like I’m denying who I am or feel small. In saying that, I’m still working on things.

My TF is also now in the background of my thoughts rather than mostly at the forefront like it used to be, and ghost touches, seeing his name, and dreams of him etc are happening at a much smaller scale now in daily life. I am seeing more of 1010, 2121 and 1221 numbers though.

Anyway, last night I wanted to be intimate with my partner, and I felt turned on, wasn’t feeling guilt or anything, but he wasn’t able to “end the job” for me like he could used to do multiple times the other times we had been intimate(sex is rare for us as I’ve stated in other posts, but we do other things). During this time I also started feeling ghost touches, heart palpitations including strong pulses in my feet, and some light pain in my chest. This has happened the last several times as well with intimacy, which makes me wonder if it’s his Divine Masculine/higher self or if it’s my TF possibly doing this, consciously or not? Because I felt calm and comfortable and safe doing that with my partner, and I was turned on, and yet it felt like it was taken away from me, I guess I can say? I tried not to think of my TF while I’m with my partner, and to put my thoughts elsewhere or just have my thoughts on the experience, but yeah, got no where except for the chest and touch feelings :confused:

What can I do in this situation? Or is there nothing I can do except for being single or celibate with my partner? When I “take care of myself” everything is fine.

I had a recurring dream, after asking my Divine Masculine at what’s going on in the journey. I was shown two pathways that were both lit-on-fire on the sides, with petals on the ground of them that both lead to a fiery heart on each end, but the one on the left was a bit longer(like 2 meters more?), and looking at them both I was told (as much as i can remember),that if I choose to stay in my relationship with my partner then the journey will be a bit longer and with some struggles of its own, but easier on the left, and the path on the right, if i break up with my partner, will be harder with struggles, but shorter. He told me it’s a decision i will have to make on which one I want to travel down. So I’m fine with being with my partner for a while longer even if it’s several years or more. I was also given “1st of October” in that same dream a couple of times as well, which stood out to me. I wasn’t told how long or short each path was, either, in terms of months or years.

While writing this I’m getting soft touches on my arms, hand and lip now, after saying how lately they’ve been generally quiet lol

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I definitely know my twin is for me and don’t want anyone else. But over time you do recognize that only the healed version of your twin is compatible, not the ego-driven one. And should the runner keep on runnin’ where does that leave the DF?

I felt a lot of fear of this scenario before, as my runner seems to know every single escape hatch known to man :face_with_hand_over_mouth:. Does this mean I’ll be alone forever? Always yearning for a love that cannot happen?

That evolved since as I’ve healed. I realized for many DF’s, given all the healing work we do, we recognize, twin or not, only a person matching our vibration could ever fit with us. Someone who also wants to learn and grow of their own voliton. Which is pretty rare, in this world! But I believe the Universe has got our back, and if our twin doesn’t want us back, it will provide us with someone who can reflect that love back, likely once we’ve relinquished the hope for romance with our twin entirely, but surrender to loving them forever.

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This is me. Ive tried. I even have a friend I spend a lot of time with. He has some of my TF’S qualities. The sex is good, sometimes really good Lol. But sometimes I have had to choke back tears because I wanted him to be my twin. Last night was one of those times so it is fresh in my mind. He is not 100% available and that is very unlikely to change. I wonder sometimes if i chose him on purpose….kind of a half relationship. He is the only person I have felt comfortable with.

I can connect with people pretty easily and be friendly but it is usually short lived. Either they fade away or I pull back because I know I cant open my heart fully to anyone no matter how hard I try. It isnt fair to that person.

This half life is starting to get really old. I want to live. And please dont tell me I have to live with me, love me. I have done so much inner work these past 2 years. I spent 30 years in a marriage that broke me. Then met my TF who broke me. I just want to be able to love and be loved. I can love me all I want but I know I’m not meant to only love me. I know my worth and what I deserve.

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The relationship part just isn’t there for me anymore. Zero desire.

Physical stuff I could probably still do with someone else if I’m being honest, but anything beyond that? Can’t even imagine it.

I’m just not in a place where I could give anyone else what they’d need emotionally right now. It wouldn’t be fair to them when my heart’s clearly somewhere else.

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Same. Like there’s no point even trying with anyone else when you know what the real thing feels like.

Had a false twin situation before this and even that felt more real than any regular dating ever did.

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Yes I agree with you, ever since I met my TF who is so much younger than me and we had sex, I never wanted anyone else. We are in separation now but I dont seem to be interested with anyone else anymore. It is only him who could ever touch me. I have been celibate since the last time we had sex.It is the best , most intense sex I ever experience!Separation is almost over, my intuition is telling me so with many sync and angel numbers.I always see him in my dreams where we are so intimate! I wish the best for us and you and your twin flame as well.

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I also can’t imagine myself with anyone else, neither sexually nor in a relationship. I once spoke with my twin flame about this, and he himself told me that he knows for him there is either life with me or life alone without me. There is no other person for him. And even when we are in separation, he says himself that it would feel like a betrayal for him to be with someone else, because throughout the separation we feel as if we are actually together, even though we aren’t physically. Still, I have this fear inside me: what if things are different during this separation? :sad_but_relieved_face:

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Can’t even imagine trying. I was never really as focused on my love life as movies and media would make it seem like we all are but my TF changed that for us. With everyone else… I’m less interested than ever.

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Same here, complete transformation. I went from being the least committal person, constantly playing the field, to not being able to think about anyone else. Something just clicked. I’d choose being single forever over settling for anything less than that.

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Once you’ve experienced that twin flame intensity, everything else just feels like background noise. You still want a deep connection, but you’re tuned to a frequency normal people can’t match.

That’s just how it works after you’ve felt the real thing.

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Ten years is a long time, and the fact that you’ve found your own rhythm in it says a lot about your journey. I used to feel defensive when people asked me questions like that, but somewhere along the way I just… stopped needing to explain myself. They’re looking at the surface - the profile picture, the career, whatever boxes they think should equal a relationship. They can’t see the deeper current running underneath.

The people who haven’t experienced this kind of connection will never fully get it, and that’s okay. We don’t need them to. You know your truth.

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At its core, the twin flame journey is really about learning unconditional love - and that has to start with ourselves first.

We can’t truly love another unconditionally if we don’t believe we’re worthy of that same love in return. Sometimes the universe sends us these experiences with other people not as distractions, but as mirrors to show us what healthy love and communication actually look like. It’s all part of learning to love ourselves unconditionally so we can eventually offer that same pure love to our twin without attachment or desperation.

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