I get some very hot and cold messages during separation sometimes. Sometimes I get the signs that my DM is thinking of me or even sexual thoughts, but I’m looking for some specific sign that they do still love me during separation. That they still feel the same way.
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As frustrating as it is… their hot and cold behavior might actually be one of the strongest signs they still love you.
I know that’s unhelpful and annoying. A lot of external signs are, honestly.
Your DM runs because the feelings are too intense, not because they don’t have any. When someone doesn’t care, there’s no pattern; there’s just apathy. The TF push-pull exists because love overwhelms them. During the hot phases, you’re seeing their genuine feelings. During the cold phases, you’re seeing their fear of how deep those feelings actually go. If you follow forecasts, you’ll often see these maps up for runners because they don’t know where these feelings come from.
The sexual energy you’re picking up is also there for the same reason. That’s coming through your shared base chakra connection. When you suddenly feel aroused without any trigger, or you’re sensing they’re thinking of you - that’s real energetic communication happening. The telepathic bond stays active regardless of what’s happening in the 3D.
They can’t stop loving you at the soul level because you’re connected there permanently. In the 5D, you’re already in union. We tend not to really think about it because we want to see it in the 3D. The separation is happening so that both you (the runner and the chaser) can heal what would just get amplified if you came together right now. Every sign you’re getting - the synchronicities, the downloads, the physical sensations - confirms that bond is still very much alive.
They absolutely love you during separation.
From the runner’s perspective, they’re experiencing the same intense feelings you are through the telepathic connection. They just don’t understand where it’s coming from, which is why their emotions (and actions) can be all over the place.
Sometimes they’re aware that they love you and they deny their feelings. Sometimes they’re not consciously aware of their feelings, so when you keep popping into their head, they feel like they’re going batshit crazy, and they can lash out at both you and themselves.
Nobody ever said being a runner was easy.
Runners who’ve come back and shared their experience say they were scared and vulnerable - they were running from themselves, not from you. The feelings were overwhelming, not absent. If any runners join this conversation, I’m sure they’ll back me up. They think about you constantly and can’t get the connection out of their head, no matter how hard they try. At the soul level, they miss you whether they’re consciously aware of it or not. The caring and protective nature stays active even when they’re withdrawn. Often, that caring is subconscious and not fully in their control.
The divine masculine DM typically operates from logic, and twin flame connections don’t fit into logical frameworks. It’s hard for them because they wrestle with how they believe things are supposed to work. The DF is usually more open to learning and not being in control of a situation.
When they meet you, they experience soul shock - feeling like they’ve known you for lifetimes. That forces them to rethink their entire view of reality. They want to understand the logic of emotions, but this connection transcends that. Their running is often an attempt to protect both of you from further hurt. It’s an act of love.
The simple fact that you are separated is often the only sign you need that they love you.
The love doesn’t go anywhere. It has nowhere to go.
It’s there constantly, even when I’m pulling back or going silent. That consistent feeling in your chest, that’s not random. When you feel that steady presence underneath all the hot and cold surface stuff, that’s the actual truth of it.
Looking for signs of it… Really, any sync is there. I think we all get signs all the time and the few of us who don’t think we do just are not consciously aware of it yet. When you’re uncertain, it’s usually coming from a place of fear or 3D blocks. There’s nothing at the 5D that ever changes that love. I know when I was scared shitless of what this connection meant, I’d retreat, but the love never changed. He can feel you just like you feel him, even if he’s not ready to admit it or act on it.
I think everyone feels different signs, but you can look for or ask for specific signs if you want. Like the conversation the other day about songs being a sign, there are so many that have specific meanings about your feelings for each other or even messages about the journey in general.
I think one of the strongest signs is that feeling you can’t shake - like you can sense their presence even when they’re not around. Sometimes it’s just this constant awareness that they’re out there living their life. One of the most annoying things about separation is struggling to put things into words.
For me, it shows up as this intuition about how they’re doing. Like I can somehow tell when they’re okay or going through something, even though we’re apart. And when I get the urge to work on myself, I wonder if that’s connected to them somehow.
I get what you’re asking about. For me, the pull got stronger over time - the signs and synchronicities became more frequent, not less. I started getting this sense of understanding about our future together. That inner certainty was more powerful than any individual sign.
When I tried dating other people during separation, something felt off. Like, I wasn’t being true to myself. There was this resistance I couldn’t shake - it showed me the connection was still there. I couldn’t pretend they didn’t matter.
Even smaller things like feeling them being physical with someone else. There’s a good reason they’re reaching out to you with that energy.
This hit hard.
The love doesn’t dim just because you make different choices in the 3D. If anything, it gets worse because now you’re living with the weight of knowing you ran from the one person who actually understood you at a soul level. You still think about them. Even when you’re with someone else.
So yes, if your runner is pulling away or seems to be moving on with their life, it doesn’t mean the love isn’t there. Sometimes it means they’re so terrified of it that they’re trying to bury it under ‘normal’ life choices. The separation, the silence, the apparent moving on - it can all be forms of running from feelings that are too big to face.
They still love you. Trust me on this one.
I think a lot of the same signs show for something like separation ending. It doesn’t mean that they’re thinking of you, so separation is going to end right away, but the further you go along the journey, the more you can just trust your intuition.
There are the obvious signs, like their name showing up everywhere or people mentioning your twin’s name randomly. Your song in weird places or just songs as a sign in other ways. There are numerology patterns too that specifically signify love or Tarot cards like the Lovers.
Sure there are subtle signs too but sometimes you don’t have to look that far or that deep to find the obvious ones.
For me it’s been the intensity of the chaos - when the feelings are so raw and overwhelming that you know this goes deeper than regular romance.
The masculine wound makes our DMs push away what they love most, but that turbulence shows they’re still engaged in the healing process with us. If you’re getting those hot and cold waves, they’re feeling the connection intensely even if they can’t express it consistently yet. Their love is colliding with their unhealed parts.
Yeah, for me, I think music is the biggest one. Someone linked the thread before, but music is already such a gateway into our emotions that it makes perfect sense to use. For someone who is closed off in the 3D to their feelings, music can bypass all their 3D blocks and tap into the emotion they have that they can’t process yet.
It happened way too many times to be a coincidence.
One time I was crying asking ‘does he even remember what we had?’ and shuffle landed on a song about never forgetting their first real love. I ugly cried even harder, but in a good way lol. So my advice? When you’re feeling those hot and cold vibes and need confirmation they still love you, put on shuffle and PAY ATTENTION to what comes on. The lyrics, the timing, even the artist name sometimes. Your twin’s higher self is using music to communicate when the 3D connection feels shaky.
I got a receipt for exactly $11.11 right before my DM went radio silent. I think we talk about numbers so much that we take them for granted and go looking for something else for some reason.
The love shows up in ways I can’t explain away. The synchronicities that cut through my doubt, the telepathic moments that feel too real to ignore. There’s this current of unconditional love underneath it all, even when everything else feels cold and confusing.
Okay but the biggest sign of their love during separation is when you feel something in your soul first and then days later they reach out saying or doing exactly that thing. That 3D/5D synchronicity only happens when the connection is real and the love is still there.