Tell me about your changes!

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Everyone feel free to share your own achievements and positive changes in your life since meeting your twin flame.

I’ll be very interested in hearing it all :slight_smile:

I want to share a few of mine. I noticed that my life long habit of chewing my nails/fingers that I’ve failed to quit in the past, just stopped one day. Another is believing in the afterlife and spiritual things; I used to be an atheist. My crippling anxiety that was about 90% of my life, has tuned down to about 10% of the time now, but that 10% is also more manageable. I stopped over-worrying about what others think, I have noticed that I’m also more comfortable speaking my opinions and feelings without worrying people will hate me or not want to be my friend anymore, like how I used to feel. I used to be a people pleaser and doormat.

I’m not fearful anymore of any little physical change in me being possibly cancer(I had an extreme fear of cancer).

I’ve noticed that subjects and comments online that would majorly upset me or trigger me to the point where it would be all I would think of for a week or so, no longer affects me anymore. I would see them and… actually be fine?

I’ve always been self conscious about my looks, and now I feel attractive and I like myself enough to feel confident about myself.

I’ve always been really self conscious about my lack of education, particularly math(I was homeschooled, and my parents stopped bothering once I got in my teens, fully knowing I had a learning disability). So I’ve been practicing my math, pushing through the fear and like I’m not good enough, and I’ve been noticing that I’m actually enjoying it now(I treat it like a game) and I’m already improving. Same with my hand writing and cursive, due to being put down throughout my life since childhood about not being good enough at it, I would get terrible anxiety shakes if I wrote with someone in the same room or if I wrote out in public, to the point where it was unreadable. Now I’ve been facing it and practicing a little everyday, and both have massively improved. I’m feeling more happy and confident with it now.

I’ve always had dreams and a strong desire to play music, draw/paint, and write stories. My partner recently mentioned he’d like to get me a musical keyboard to play on, next year, which I’m excited about. Today I’m going to start writing my book. Even if it’s just one sentence, or just me staring at the screen, or writing ideas, it’s a movement in the right direction! Haha. And concerning art: I work as an artist, but I’m going to start saving aside money to buy painting supplies and paint abstract.

I’ve been looking at kayaking, and getting horse riding lessons, both things I’ve always had my eye on but too nervous/anxious to do. So I’d like to start those once I have available money.

Another change is driving. I’m 35 and have only recently got my learners license(very late in the boat, I know!), I always had the fear that I would crash and hurt/kill someone. I’ve been pushing through the fear and have been practicing, and am now going from safe empty carparks to quiet roads with other drivers. Hey it’s an improvement! XD

And more than anything, I’m proud of myself for not giving in to suicide throughout my teens and 20s due to thinking that I’ll never be good enough, never be able to kick the crippling anxiety, or be able to do any of these things I’ve wanted to do. I know that, more than anything, I want to be independent and free and confident. I went from being physically and emotionally dependent on family, to being physically dependent with my first(and who is still my current) partner. He emotionally abused me to the point that I felt like I was stripped bare and had no choice but to face all my inner issues, and so I started voicing up, standing up, and being there for myself. Loving myself.

He’s no longer abusive, and he apologized, told me it was never my fault, and has also been going to therapy for the last year. I’m super proud of him.

Off topic, but I think I was meant to be with my partner to force me to get where I am now so that my twin could then enter my life and trigger the other changes in me. I feel like we’re just friends now, and once I’m fully independent, I should be able to make it official. We have a sexless relationship, so it’s been like we’ve been just really good friends for the last couple of years rather than romantic/intimate partners.

I did have a vision of my twin flame first, then I had a vision of my current partner who I met 2 months afterwards, and now 12 years later I have met my Twin Flame who has recently started working with him. The visions were vastly different from eachother in appearance and feel too, which should have given me warning signs, but I didn’t think much of it at the time.

Sorry for the looong post lol :laughing: :sweat_smile:

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The creative awakening you’re describing - wanting to write, paint, play music - that’s the surplus energy starting to move through you. When we’re stuck in survival mode with anxiety and people-pleasing patterns, all our energy goes into just getting through the day. As you heal those core wounds, suddenly there’s this massive amount of creative life force that has nowhere to go except into authentic expression. There’s also this shared energy between the two of you to share, so if one is interested in a new hobby or interest, it reverberates through both of you.

There’s something about the energetic activation that makes continuing to live small feel physically impossible. People suddenly quit jobs they’ve hated for years, move across the country, start businesses, go back to school. It’s like the connection flips a switch and settling for less than authentic just stops being an option.

Even if you never end up in union with your twin, that gift of remembering who you actually are underneath all the conditioning - that’s permanent.

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Sounds like classic mirror work (without using the terminology). That’s exactly the kind of shadow work the connection is meant to trigger.

Change is going to manifest in all sorts of different ways for different people, but I think the one rule here is that you’re going to see change. If you don’t, you’re probably not on the twin flame journey.

The anxiety reduction you’re describing is something I see constantly in people who’ve done real healing work. It happens when you stop running from what the mirror is showing you. Same with the nail biting, stopping on its own. These self-destructive patterns tend to fall away naturally once the underlying wound gets attention, rather than us white-knuckling our way through behavior change. Your current partner created the conditions for you to build a foundation of self-love and independence. Now that your actual twin has appeared and you’re already doing the inner work, you’re in a much stronger position than most people are when they first encounter their twin.

Keep it up. Excited to see where this goes.

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The sexless relationship transition is actually more common than people realize.

A lot of folks stay with catalyst or karmic partners way longer than expected because the lesson isn’t finished yet, or because leaving before they’re ready would just mean repeating the same pattern with someone new. The fact that you can see it clearly as a friendship now, and you’re working toward full independence, you’re already in the surrender phase, whether you call it that or not. You’re not sitting around waiting for your twin to make a move, you’re building the life that makes union even possible.

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I was separated from my husband (dead bedroom, living like roommates) for a couple years but hadn’t initiated divorce as I was scared. We’d discussed it and we’re still friendly but I was worried that it would turn into some nasty divorce somehow so just kept kicking the can and hoping it would magically resolve itself.

3 months after meeting my TF I had finally begun the divorce process. I figured that even if nothing happened between us it was best to have a clean slate. It might take a while but I’m glad it’s happening now.

I also got some work done on my house that I’d been putting off (see a pattern here). And been doing some other stuff clearing out because I have too much crap. I’m a huge procrastinator. I would like to do more hobbies type stuff too not sure what yet but need to sort my shit out first.

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I dropped a scary amount of weight after meeting mine. Just couldn’t eat for weeks, existed in this complete daze. The creative energy that came out of it was unexpected though. Started a new artistic thing that turned into a small business.

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Hi, My tf is athletic ( gym and plays football) and im wayy on the other spectrum lol ! But about a year ago something came over me and I wanted to start “ looking after myself” . Which is very peculiar, like a light bulb moment lit up. And right off the bat.. I am married and he’s younger, so it is a complicated combo. I do care very much about him, but more like im a teacher, if that makes sense?? A platonic, i don’t have any romantic feelings, ( mind you he’s a good looking guy). I do see angel numbers, initials on number plates and I cannot get him out of my head! It does get a bit frustrating and I don’t know if I am loosing the plot :upside_down_face:. He has changed to another store.. which was very heart breaking :broken_heart:.. but being in the same vicinity was very (tensiony) I think for both of us.. and it was a battle. Im very happy to be here to express all this.. some friends don’t know what im talking about half the time!

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Hi, that’s amazing!! Yeah I am trying my best with the gym stuff ( he’s a gym junkie) - and i feel awkward being around him, but when I speak to him all that disappears .. also twice now..when I saw him out of nowhere.. I lost my appetite :laughing:.. it’s very ( high school vibes i know!!! Lol) but I like it.. keeps me on my toes!

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It makes it all worth it in the end if I can just be fully and truly myself, I agree with you! I still tear up sometimes when I think back to how low and hurt and desperate I used to feel. I used to call it ‘Being trapped in a cage while holding the key’ just couldn’t seem to use that key no matter how hard I tried. And no one else seemed to understand, it was really lonely

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I do remember the times I wanted to break up with my partner earlier on, and there was this strong feeling that it wasn’t the right time yet, and I didn’t understand why. I guess divine or my/his higher self has always been guiding me all along, which is comforting.

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Oh man, the changes in my life since this connection became apparent have been epic. He and I have known each other for over a decade, and have been good friends throughout that time, but I always knew there was an uncanny connection between us… it just made zero sense. We met online in 2014 and only met in person for the first time last year; we were both in committed relationships; there was nothing beyond friendship between us, but I knew I had only experienced synchronicities like the ones that were happening with him with the most important people in my life (and even those were nowhere near as intense as these). So why the heck was I seeing them SO OFTEN with this guy on the other side of the world who I’d only ever communicated with via email?

In 2023, I lost my beloved husband to cancer. He was absolutely my soulmate, and now that I’ve experienced this twin flame connection I can clearly see the differences. (Soulmate relationships are soooo much easier than this!!) My twin’s marriage also happened to break down the same year. He and I reconnected early the following year and it turned out we were both having spiritual awakenings at exactly the same time, entirely unbeknownst to each other, and in very similar ways. We had never discussed spirituality at any point in our relationship up to that point. Suddenly all those crazy synchronicities were starting to make sense.

Long, complicated, mind-blowing story short, we finally did meet up in person when I visited him in 2024. We were living 6000 miles apart, and I went home from that visit with the most intensely restless feeling I have ever had. I knew I was travelling in the wrong direction, and it wasn’t just because of him. I knew, with a certainty I can’t describe, that I didn’t belong in my old life any more - not in my home, not in the town I’d lived in for a very long time, not even in my home country. I spent the next nine months moving my entire life 6000 miles across the globe, feeling like the land itself was physically pulling me back. To call it intense is a colossal understatement. The fact that until this point I had always been terrified of change only makes it all the more astonishing. That fear just dissipated. I knew I had to do this, and I have never had a conviction like it in my life.

My twin and I are in separation right now… he also ended up moving a few months after I got here, which I knew was on the cards even though it didn’t make logical sense given everything I’ve received about the two of us. But at this point I feel a sense of peace about getting to figure out why I’m here and what I need to be working on in myself until he and I are back in the same space again (which I know will happen). My spiritual practice has deepened in some incredible ways over the past few weeks; I am actively pursuing shadow work I’ve pushed aside for years, and I’m feeling freer and lighter with every issue that comes up. I am making connections with other people, ones I didn’t envision making with anyone other than my twin, but right now they feel necessary and important and a part of the growth journey I’m consciously on.

Activating this connection has resulted in the most astonishing two years of my life, with changes I never would have believed in a million years. And nothing has ever felt more right.

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Meeting my twin has turned everything upside down. I’m finally dealing with abandonment stuff I’d buried for decades.

I quit smoking without trying, like I literally forgot to buy cigarettes one day and then just never did again? It was the weirdest thing. My therapist said sometimes our coping mechanisms just stop working once we start dealing with the actual problem underneath.

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I see what you mean about the physical symptoms just disappearing on their own.

I had the nail biting end too. I’d tried everything to stop for like 15 years and then one day after meeting them it just wasn’t a thing anymore. Someone told me it’s because the anxiety that was driving it got redirected into the connection itself, so the little nervous habits have nowhere to attach to anymore. No idea if that’s true, but it tracks with how I felt at the time.

Has anyone else noticed their dreams getting more vivid since meeting their twin? Mine went from fuzzy nonsense to full-on messages I can actually interpret now. Not sure if it’s related but the timing lines up.

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The math practice as a game thing caught my attention. Funny how we can suddenly tackle things we’ve avoided for decades once we’re ‘ready’ for them. I went through something similar with my relationship to food, always had disordered eating patterns, and after meeting my TF I just. stopped. No dramatic intervention, no therapy specifically for it. My body just ‘decided’ it was done punishing itself.

And the driving thing at 35 is impressive. I’m 38 and still haven’t gotten my license because of the same fear - that I’ll hurt someone. Reading your post made me think maybe I should actually try instead of just avoiding it forever. Sometimes I forget that fear is just information about what needs healing, not a life sentence.

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Another thing I experienced is looking younger (not sure if that will revert back now in separation :joy:).

My perimenopause symptoms disappeared and my dark circles and puffiness have reduced.

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Oh wow! That’s actually a really cool ‘side effect’! It’s amazing how much the body inside and out changes on this journey. Not sure about myself regarding that, other than losing weight since meeting him, and my hair isn’t falling out anywhere as much, so maybe that’s to do with him as well? I’ve read about others saying they looked younger and prettier since being on the journey, but it was on like other websites :slight_smile: so definitely a thing with a lot of people I guess!

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Look at you out here healing decades of anxiety and nail biting like it’s nothing. (I say sarcastically, because we both know it’s definitely not nothing.)

Twin flames have this way of acting as mirrors for each other, bringing up all the stuff that needs healing. And apparently, for you, that meant… all of it? Overachiever.

The cancer fear thing is so relatable btw. Health anxiety is brutal and the fact that just left? That’s not small. Congrats on all the progress. The cancer fear thing resonating because I have the same issue with health anxiety and nobody really talks about how twin flame awakening affects that specifically. For me every physical symptom became evidence of the kundalini rising instead of evidence of dying, which probably sounds insane but it genuinely helped me stop spiraling every time my body felt weird.

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Thank you! It surprises me as well. Maybe spirit was like, ‘Ok let’s wrap this up, she’s taking too long” lol

Yeah the cancer worry thing would really get to me growing up. Any little sore in my body or lump or new mole, or even different bowel movement would send me into a panic. I had no idea that the TF experience would affect illness worries, so that’s cool information! But then I guess it affects everything inside out, so why not haha :laughing:

You mentioning everything feeling like it’s related to kundalini rising pipped up my senses! I think that might be the case for myself as well, on top of believing in an afterlife now and so I no longer worry about dying, I guess, too :sweat_smile:

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Reading your post made my heart so full! Yes to the creative pursuits opening up! I started gardening and it’s become my favorite moving meditation. Everything just feels more active and alive now, doesn’t it? Like colors are brighter and music sounds better.

Excited for your keyboard process and your book, please update us.

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Sorry if this is off-topic but I wanted to share that one of my biggest changes has been learning that the work doesn’t stop. Even as I’ve grown a lot since meeting my twin, I’m still constantly working on choosing love over ego, improving communication, and replacing old wounded reactions with compassion and vulnerability.

Meeting them sparked this massive spiritual awakening that showed me I needed to keep evolving beyond my old patterns to stay aligned with this connection. The ongoing self-improvement has been hard but also really meaningful.

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