Is anyone not romantic at all with their twin flame? Either temporary or permanent?
I’ve seen some people say that twin flames don’t ever wind up together or they’re not supposed to. Sometimes I feel like we’ll not get there but I just want to be there for them. Not in a romantic way. Just… there. Still in each others lives. I keep seeing all these posts about twin flames being these passionate love stories, but maybe that’s not us.
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One of those subjects that people disagree on. From what I’ve seen most people believe that twin flames are always destined to be romantic but then we wind up back at single lifetime vs multiple lifetimes and what destined really means for twin flames.
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Your connection is valid. Full stop.
One of the bugbears of the real spiritual community is how terminology gets broken. Hollywood stole soulmates and made them into this idea of “one true love” which was never the true meaning of soulmate.
I am one of the majority who believe twin flames do ultimately always head toward a romantic connection, but also I think that people (especially those coming from social media) get so fixated on the romantic narrative that people in platonic connections start doubting themselves or comparing their journey to other people, and it’s frustrating to watch.
If you think you’re with a platonic twin flame, I personally believe that you haven’t met your twin flame or you don’t have one - this is a soulmate connection.
And if you’re feeling attacked, then I want you to understand this isn’t any kind of competition. A platonic soulmate is absolutely a thing. An incredible thing. The fantastic parts of having a soulmate in your life doesn’t require a relationship status. The love is unconditional, but it’s not romantic love. It’s that divine love that exists regardless of what form the relationship takes.
The posts you’re seeing about passionate love stories are what twin flames are ultimately meant for. There is a great post about the true purpose of twin flames, but all of that comes with a very intense love which is the furthest thing from platonic as you can get. I do agree with @Tighthair that if you suspect this is a platonic connection and it’s not ‘normal’ then it is most likely a soulmate, not a TF.
Some will validate platonic twin flames because it’s comforting and inclusive, and I get that. But the deeper teaching is that twin flames carry a romantic blueprint. You might not get there this lifetime, that’s real, some pairs don’t. But the design is lovers, not friends. You may start as friends but inevitably, it will become romantic because twin flames are designed to be together for eternity.
What you’re describing sounds like a phase, honestly. The “I just want to be there for them” without romantic wanting? That’s often what separation feels like when you’re trying to protect yourself from the intensity. Or when there are circumstances blocking union like existing relationships, distance or fear.
The soul recognition is there. The pull is there. The romantic piece isn’t absent, it might just be buried or blocked right now.
I know that’s maybe not what you wanted to hear. But I’ve seen too many people settle into “we’re just platonic” as a way to avoid the harder work of actually pursuing union. And then years later they’re still crying over what could have been.
Let me be real with you because I think you need to hear this.
The twin flame connection is ONE soul split into two bodies. The purpose of reunion is to become whole again. That means spiritually, emotionally, AND physically. Romance and sexuality aren’t shallow add-ons to the “real” spiritual connection. They’re part of how twin flames fully merge and complete their mission together.
Yes, there are practical obstacles. Same gender when you’re straight, one person married, huge distance, bad timing. These things happen and they’re painful. But they don’t change what the connection is. They just explain why union isn’t happening yet. The people who say “platonic is equally valid” are being kind, but I think they’re doing people a disservice. Because then you have twins settling into friendship, calling it complete, when there’s this whole other dimension of the connection they’re leaving unexplored. The romantic union raises both twins’ vibration in ways friendship can’t replicate.
What would happen if you let yourself want more? Not forcing it, not chasing, but just… being honest about whether “platonic” is truly what your soul wants or what feels safer right now.
I think the best advice is just not to judge your connection one way or another. Forget the labels. If you are happy being platonic for now, then do that. Just be honest with yourself.
You are talking about two different things. Im not sure if you have ever had a soul mate relationship but I have. my husband and I were true soul mates and lived a happy life until he died in 22. He died on 1-1-22. Our son’s birthday is 11-22. I was certain I would end up in a happy relationship after he died and I would just make my peace with the fact that I already had a great life with my soulmate and my next love would never be as good as that. Then I met him. It was a little uncomfortable for me because I felt like I was betraying my husband and all the love he gave me. It felt bad because I was like omg the feelings I had for my husband were nothing like this. Nothing!!! So right or wrong I don’t think a twin flame relationship, not a true one could ever be anything less than all encompassing including romance. If it isn’t then it’s probably soulmate and I can tell you from experience I have many soulmates. My one with my husband is the only romantic one I have ever had. They are very meaningful and important relationships but they are absolutely not a twin flame.
Maybe I need to stop expecting the lightning bolt and start paying attention to the quieter pulls.
For me, different stuff in my life kept changing things between us. After I finished therapy in 2020, I wasn’t as clingy anymore. I read some Jung at some point and the whole anima/animus thing kind of clicked - like meeting him was encountering a part of myself I didn’t know was there.
I thought we were platonic at first but I don’t think it could ever have really stayed that way.