I think if they’re dating someone else it is just part of the journey you have to walk right now. I don’t think you have to be cellibate or stay single yourself in fact it’s probably better that you don’t just wallow and focus on them. It isn’t the end of your story, but don’t just sit waiting for them to break up.
If you do that, they’ll immediately end up with someone else because you’re still not ready.
Karmic relationships are preparation. I spent 10 years with someone else after my twin, and I both ran, and honestly, those years did more work on me than I understood at the time.
We get what we need, not what we want, until we’re actually ready for both. Your heart has to be prepared to hold that kind of energy. The karmics, the soulmates in between… they’re doing work on us whether we realize it or not (and usually we don’t, not until way later).
The longing just stays. Try to shift your focus, but your twin never really leaves your heart. You just learn to carry it differently.
You can distract yourself but (like others have said) the loop of separation just keeps going until you actually do the work.
The connection doesn’t disappear. Even when you’ve logically moved forward and found peace with where everything landed, they’re just… there. In your heart still. The readiness timeline depends so much on your twin’s sign. Mine’s a Scorpio, and that intensity means nothing moves fast when they’re not ready (like, nothing).
It hurts to think of them with someone else but I know that this is part of our planned blueprint and we both agreed to it. This is so they can learn from them and I have the space to do what I need to do. It will be worth it.
Your ascension doesn’t depend on where they sleep at night. Loving without conditions means releasing attachment to outcomes, even when those outcomes feel like they should be yours. Nobody wants to accept that.
The energy is real. I’m not dismissing that. But their path toward growth might require exactly this experience right now. It’s not yours to redirect.
That whole ‘if you love something let it go’ thing is actually kind of real. I was a complete mess for days when I found out about his relationship, like I couldn’t function.
But keeping my distance ended up triggering something in him. He basically woke up to our connection and has been pursuing me ever since (even while still with her). His girlfriend is probably his karmic tbh.
Sometimes the soul contract includes a third-party chapter. Certain lessons just land differently without the intensity of union. Ask yourself what agreement you made to learn boundaries and self-worth here, and what agreement they made around integrity and choice. Two separate contracts, really.
For me it helps to focus less on the timeline (which will drive you crazy) and more on fulfilling my side of things cleanly.
Working directly with the nervous system is what helped me. I did EMDR for attachment wounds and EFT tapping when I would spiral about them being intimate with someone else. I also did cord-cutting meditations weekly, not to sever the TF bond but to clear the obsession and fear that were eating me alive.
I started inner child journaling too. Prompts like ‘What am I afraid it means about me?’ That one especially exposed the real trigger underneath the jealousy.