If someone asked me whether I would choose never to meet my twin flame, my honest answer depends on the hour of the day you caught me. Has anyone else ever wondered about this?
There are moments when everything feels so hard. I can’t believe people are out there “looking for their twin flame”.
And I’m curious where you all land. If you could erase the meeting entirely, would you? Or is the answer more complicated than yes or no at this point?
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This has crossed my mind. Every time I see someone talk about finding their twin flame and starting this journey… I think they’re crazy.
But I wouldn’t choose to go back. For every hard part there’s an equal wonderful part and when I look at those who are together… those relationships make “normal” ones look even crazier.
i couldn’t settle for anything else at this point.
Funny thing is… the harder everything got, the more it actually mattered.
I’m grateful to be on the journey. Doesn’t make it easy but it’s incredibly rare to even have the option.
Yeah… I feel this.
Even when it hurts I don’t know what else I could do now. I couldn’t settle for less.
I did notice that this is pretty similar to this other topic on giving up:
So I’m not alone but I don’t think I could really “give up”.
I would choose this journey every time.
The independence, the confidence, finally knowing who I am… none of that existed before we crossed paths. Being on opposite sides of the world doesn’t change what this connection gave me. I didn’t know this version of myself was possible.
Separation hurts and drives me mad at times but it’s helping me do things I’d never thought possible and leading me to a perfect love that most can’t even imagine.
So yeah. Every time.
Honestly, I’m not quite sure. It depends on the day, like you said.
I’m grateful for this journey. I’ve learned a lot and become my authentic self. I wouldn’t be where I am now without this journey. That’s huge.
But this journey has been absolute hell. There’s been so much crying, longing, and pain. I still really want my twin flame. It’s hard to imagine wanting anyone else in the same way. Nothing compares, and it sucks because I don’t think we’ll end up together in this lifetime. It makes me wonder if it’s all been worth it.
Today feels good, though. If you asked me today, I’d probably choose this journey again.
Acceptance and surrender. That’s the whole journey, no matter who you end up with.
At least when you go through the hard parts of the TF journey you get the greatest prize of all.
Would erase that meeting in a heartbeat. Like, 100%.
There’s no possible chance I’m quitting but if I had the option to just live a normal life and not go through this I would. Worry about just normal things like what’s on TV.
Sorry if this sounds dramatic but like… what’s the alternative. Go back to Netflix and chill?
I’ve accepted it. Completely. The vulnerability is real - I’m wide open, no defenses, could be destroyed by pretty much anyone right now. And I wouldn’t change a thing about that.
He’s not perfect. But his mercy, his grace, the intelligence in this guy - if I turned my back on that it would mean denying something sacred in both of us. Which I just can’t do.
I honor this connection like nothing else in my life. That part still surprises me sometimes.
Those of us truly on the journey (probably the minority) need to remember how rare it is and honor that in how we show up every day.
I’m with you there!
All I ever wanted was quiet and simple life with my family.
I though I was going to achieve that a few years ago. A new, no fuss job with decent pay and a short communte.
Then I met them at that new job…and everything went to sh*t…
I really want to validate your experience here because I think what you’re describing is such a perfect example of holding space for two truths at once. Like, you can honor the growth AND acknowledge the pain. Those aren’t mutually exclusive, and I think that’s something a lot of us need to sit with.
My life before meeting my Twin wasn’t perfect. But I was happy. I was content. Everything was going as perfectly as I could imagine at that point. Then I met them, and my entire life was turned upside down. As much as I appreciate the lessons I have learnt, sometimes I wish I could go back and taken the blue pill instead. Blissful ignorance.
As much as I understand what is being portrayed here. You can’t deny something you’ve never known. It’s different if you’ve already found out the concept and am trying to run from it pretending it doesn’t exist. But when you don’t even know something exists, how can you be in denial?
I would maybe rephrase the question. If you had a guaranteed union this lifetime, but it doesn’t happen for 15 years. Do you wait it out or walk? Nobody’s situation is that clean and binary and I don’t think there is a wrong answer here either… but that might tell you what you’re really thinking.
God, yes. Every day I wish we’d never crossed paths.
People tell me I’ve changed for the better since knowing him, and honestly maybe that’s true. But I was happy before. That’s the thing nobody seems to get. This ‘better’ version of me? She’s miserable. She watches him with his kids, with his whole life that doesn’t include me, and it’s just unbearable.
The meeting itself changes you so fundamentally that the ‘you’ answering wouldn’t even exist without it, so I think the question kind of eats itself. The whole point of a twin flame is to be a catalyst. Inner healing, self-love, all that. The actual purpose is personal transformation, and reunion might happen, but that’s not really the goal.
I wouldn’t give up my union for anything. It’s the most important thing to me and I there’s nothing that would make me want to give it up at this point but I don’t think I can honestly ask the question because I’m not who I was before we ever met.
So when you ask ‘would you erase it’ you’re really asking would you erase the version of yourself that finally confronted everything you’d been hiding from your whole life. The shadow work, the wound healing - all of it got triggered by meeting this one person. Even if your souls agreed to this meeting, you can choose to reject that path. But once the awakening gets triggered you will run into problems if you keep making choices from your old self. Damned if you do, damned if you don’t.
Wouldn’t erase it. But I would set boundaries so much sooner - and stopped romanticizing the pain, because that kept me stuck longer than anything else did.
Hard no for me. The difficult parts can be healing, even when it doesn’t feel like it in the moment.
