People disagree about twin flame stuff all the time but lately I see a lot of people talking about twin flames being siblings or friends. Do twin flames always have to be lovers?
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I feel like they should be lovers and fate should make them connect in romantic ways through all their lifetimes. I can understand them reversing roles-e.g. one being the man in one lifetime, but then becoming the woman, but I cannot reconcile them in a family setting. I mean I think something very seriously should be wrong up there (I mean with the karmic system) for true Twin Flames to happen to be in the same family or even worse-one being a parent to the other. That looks like a total system failure to me. I can’t imagine what they should have done in past lifetimes in order to deserve that?
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This is one of those things that nobody really knows.
It feels like most of us believe twin flames are destined to be romantic and that seems to be how it manifests for the most part. There are people who claim to have a sibling or friend as a twin flame, but it has none of the earmarks of the journey, so it seems to me like a misuse of the term, and what they really mean is a soulmate, but who knows.
There are already several threads on the topic, so I’ll not rehash them:
The most common view holds that twin flames are always destined for romance. They share one soul blueprint, designed to unite fully as both heal and align. Friendship is just a starting phase; the bond becomes teacher, best friend, partner, and lover all in one. If you’re stuck in the friend zone, more healing awaits.
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I don’t think they have to be lovers or romantic, but I do think that is the goal of the journey. Some just don’t reach that in this incarnation.
Our entire soul family is here to help each other grow and learn, not just one specific connection but soul mates specifically are meant to be lovers… just isn’t a guarantee that they manage it.
There’s a weird trend of people pretending to know things that they can’t possibly know and they’ve started telling people that twin flames have nothing to do with romance. No logic or reason behind it, just stating it as fact. Sounds like some grade A jealousy to me.
Most (if not all) TF couples seem to involve romance. In my opinion, anything else is not a twin flame.
As a Scorpio but with Gemini rising and Libra stellium, until now I could switch from romantic feelings to friendship, if things start to be quite painful, or if the feelings are not mutual…And I enjoy very much us being friends! It’s the first time and only with my Twin Flame, that this is simply not happening. I tried and tried, and the only thing that managed is to feel severely depressed. This is something completely different. I’m in a very subtle situation because my DM is my holistic therapist, and I tried for two years to change my feelings for him , but it’s impossible 
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Not family. Not friends. They were lovers in every single lifetime, and they always had a moth to a flame dynamics, an uncontrollable, intense pull and mind-blowing chemistry between them, both out of this world, a love that can’t be broken or stopped.
Twin flames have only been lovers.
I think the weird narrative that they can be other things is just people who like the term and want to use it, but haven’t actually met or gotten a twin flame.
I am really not an expert but in my personal understanding this sort of intense & out-of-the-world magnetic pull is between oppositely attracting polarities ( masculine/feminine energy)… but hey, the universe has infinite possibilities so who knows there are other kind of equations…
Meeting your twin flame doesn’t guarantee romance. Mine brought intense sexual tension, sure, but also so much shadow work that most days I could happily punch him.
I’ve come to accept that true alignment might take many lifetimes. Union is pretty rare. Not the fairy tale people expect.