This is probably the question I see most often outside the twin flame communities (other than stuff about the Escaping Twin Flame documentary), but what do you think? Are twin flames real? Is it some huge shared delusion?
I like how a lot of people here seem very open and welcoming to different beliefs. I know some people are not sure and others seem certain. Would love to hear some opinions.
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I never heard the word twin flame until a year after we met. We were separated at the time but I was keeping my spiritual growth private. At one point I googled something like I donât understand why I love this person so much. Then bam! It all made sense in a very nonsensical way. I decided to still keep my journey private and off line. I didnât want any outside influence to get in the way of something I knew was so important. I didnât start posting or looking for communities until a couple months ago and Im three years in with my twin. I am very happy I chose to go through this my way. So I deliberately didnât watch the Netflix doc. I never will. I know very little about it but I know A true twin relationship would never put profit over the beautiful love that exists between twins. Everyone reading this knows it too in one way or another. We canât control the actions of other people but we can choose to ignore all the chaos out there. I donât believe they are true twins. If they were it would be impossible for them to collectively hurt other people who are only looking for love.
Yes. it is. My twin confirmed it finally and we share pretty intense telepathy.
Believe me, I know how it sounds. I was a pretty logical, agnostic, non-religious/spiritual person âbeforeâ. I never heard of twin flames. For two years after I was suddenly âactivatedâ in this journey, despite extremly clear physical and mental sensations, I believed i was legit insane half the time. It made no sense in this world, where everything that doesnât have tried and proven scientific data is rejected as absurdity. What DID make sense was Iâd been through a lot of trauma, and I just mustâve âsnappedâ. It brought relief to believe this, despite feeling completely sane otherwise. Maybe if I was merely nuts, I could find a way out of the vicious cycles of pain the Twin Flame awakening process was putting me through. The struggle between knowing my sanity became a core point of suffering in my journey⌠the lesson? I had to learn to trust myself. A trust wrecked by a lifetime of neglect and abuse.
But no matter how hard I pushed away from the âabsurdityâ to believe it didnâtâcouldnât, exist, it never felt right. I knew it was all real. And in the end, my twin came through and confirmed he too was experiencing this connection.
And turns out, there does seem to be scientific explanations possible, by way of energy and quantum physics (quantum entanglement, specifically). We, as a species, are mere babies on an evolutionary scale. Just think; we JUST breached into a world where we have electricity a mere 150 years ago. That is nothing compared to the billions of years this universe has been weaving itself into what we know today. We are not done evolving, and I do believe the Twin Flame phenomena is an energetic way of purifying our energy as a species, and in some undertermined amount of time, humanity may all be born as Twin Flames, eventually uniting as pure awareness (something, I believe, scientist Carl Sagan has hinted at). Itâs just hard to be a TF here at the beginning, because the entire world still has its eyes closed.
So now when people attack those experiencing this as âjust being obsessedâ or âdramaticâ or âliving in a fantasyâ? I just shake my head. This journey is not fun. And many twin flames would escape it, if they could. But to those people, Iâd say; The only absurdity is assuming one âknowsâ a complete list of what is real and what isnât. Such thinking is like a playpen to baby. Creating a mini-bubble with clear boundaries which feels safer than the world beyond, which is limitless and too scary to contemplate.
The term âtwin flameâ is having a moment in social media, which messes with peopleâs understanding and use of the term. I posted this a few days back, but the idea of twin flames goes further back than the term.
Whether it is ârealâ or not⌠nobody here can tell you for sure. At least nobody should be telling you for sure. We can speak from our experience and from the experiences of those we know.
From what Iâve seen and experienced, a lot of the things do line up. I do believe in the concept of twin flames.
That said, I donât believe in everything that gets talked about. I believe some experiences might vary, but I donât believe you have more than one twin flame or that it justifies cheating, for example.
Opinions differ. Views vary. I do think that the core idea is real because too many of us have had similar experiences, and I have seen it firsthand. My life with my twin now⌠a ânormalâ relationship could never have even compared.
Depends entirely on what you mean by real. Are they literal split souls from a metaphysical perspective? I canât prove that scientifically. But are the experiences people have (the intense recognition, the synchronicities, the profound transformation) real? Absolutely. Far too many people are going through the same experiences to ignore.
And thatâs just the people who can talk about it together now. We didnât have twin flame communities since these references began. I do wonder how many people went through it by themselves without any guidance. In fact, how many people are going through it now but wonât know what to look for.
Iâve been in union for several years now, and what I can tell you is this: the concept itself matters less than what it reveals about you.
I donât believe that most people who use the term âtwin flameâ even know what it means. They hear it in songs or movies and use it as a more modern term than soulmate, and they only know that from movies as well. They donât understand what a soul contract really is or what the truth of the journey is even about.
And it doesnât matter.
Itâs a question that goes deeper than a simple yes or no. The idea of a âmirror soulâ isnât new. It echoes through history. Many of us (including myself) believe humanity would not be where it is today without it.
Theosophy had concepts of âtwin souls,â seeing it as a connection to a higher, divine counterpart, an elder soul or âFather-Soulâ. The modern term was really defined in the 70s, who framed it around karma and a shared spiritual origin from a single âovoid of lightâ.
People are far too blinded by the popular religions and beliefs that they happen to be born around. Especially seems to be the case here in America. Not only is there an entire world of human experience and understanding, but there is an entire history of multiple civilizations.
Just because it doesnât fit into our limited worldview of what weâve been told growing up, doesnât make it untrue and whether you see it as a myth, a spiritual reality, or a psychological archetype, the core concept of a profound, completing connection has been with us for a very long time. It speaks to a deep human longing that nobody can deny.
I agree. The core idea is 100% real. It will be hard for most people to accept or even begin to understand because the vast majority will never go through it. The experiences are too specific to be random and there are people around the world going through the same thing.
That all said, I donât believe that everyone has a twin, nor do I think that everyone who thinks they have a twin really does.
The concept seems to trigger the strongest reactions in people whoâve experienced possessive or controlling relationships. The âtwin flameâ language can sometimes mirror codependency or even manipulation. You convince yourself (or get convinced) that youâre meant to be with someone regardless of how they actually treat you.
For some, itâs hope. It is a journey that pushes us to grow and become better. That brings an amazing relationship with our perfect person, but this is a benefit, not the ultimate goal. For others, it becomes a way to stay stuck in unhealthy patterns. An excuse, but not a driver to actually better yourself.
This.
There is little (if anything) easy about being truly on this journey, but I do think that belief or self-doubt is actually the easy thing to fix.
Simply because it. Does. Not. Matter.
If you are truly a twin flame on this journey, your answer should be to focus on yourself and better yourself. Thatâs where union is.
If you are not a twin flame but they are real then your answer should be to focus on yourself and better yourself because thatâs still the way to get the best relationship youâve ever had whether youâre the same soul or not.
If twin flames are not real, you should still focus on yourself and better your journey because that will help solve whatever led you to this path to begin with.
Nobody can tell you for certain (although plenty of people will try for a price tag), but it does not matter. Your actions should be the same.
Personally? Yes. I believe twin flames are real. I have been around the community too long and seen too many crazy experiences to not believe it (even aside from my own), but maybe thousands of people around the world are all just having the same crazy coincidence.
It still would not matter. Your actions should be the same.
The idea of it being a delusion is understandable, especially from the outside. People who watched that documentary have too much going on in their lives to understand that one website does not speak for an entire belief system. Even without the actions of a small few, how could they possibly even begin to understand the path?
If someone had tried to explain this to me before I discovered my twin flame, I would not have believed it. I donât think the majority of people are even capable of opening their minds to something like this. Especially in the age of algorithms and echo chambers, to this level. As long as we know the truth, it informs our own journey. I donât try to convince anybody of anything. If they want to yell and scream their beliefs at me, I can simply smile and joke to my twin about it later that day. The person yelling and screaming is clearly dealing with something in their own way.
I think the people who fall into a trap of constantly waiting or engaging in self-destructive behavior seek validation to ensure that theyâre justified in doing so⌠in that case, I think you should probably ask yourself some very hard, cold questions in the light of day. As long as youâre actually bettering your path, though, then (as usual) @Cassady is right. It doesnât really matter because the end result is the same.
The experience feels completely real.
The sense of recognition, the magnetic pull, the feeling that your world has been turned upside down. That is a real event and anyone who has gone through it will understand more than anyone who hasnât possibly could.
Thereâs no scientific data to prove a soul can split into two, of course. Itâs a spiritual concept. We donât ask for a peer-reviewed paper on the Bible, yet that doesnât stop millions of people around the world from believing in those teachings, which are arguably a lot more potentially problematic.
The important thing is to be discerning. Not every intense or painful connection is a twin flame. We also have karmic relationships, which are often turbulent and meant to teach a specific, temporary lesson. A twin flame connection is meant to be a catalyst for profound healing, but that concept can be twisted to justify staying in a toxic or codependent situation. The connection should ultimately lead both people toward more self-love and wholeness, not destruction.
Doesnât mean that every moment has to be easy but it should be leading you towards improvement, not enabling you to stagnate.
If you have experienced it, you donât need to ask. There just cannot be any doubt.
Stop trying to figure it out intellectually and pay attention to what your body/intuition tells you when youâre in it. You can read a thousand forum posts and watch every YouTube video, but thereâs this knowing that feels different when youâre actually experiencing it versus just thinking about the concept. Once youâre in the thick of it, your whole system just recognizes something.
If youâre genuinely curious whether TFs are real, focus less on collecting evidence or convincing yourself either way. Notice if thereâs an experience in your life that defies your usual logic. The certainty people talk about isnât something you can think your way into. Itâs more like something that happens TO you, and then youâre just dealing with it (for better or worse, because yeah, itâs definitely not always easy).
If itâs your experience, you wonât need us to confirm it for you. And if youâre still genuinely wondering? You might just be in the research phase, which is fine too.
I think theyâre real. 
Just because somethingâs been misused doesnât mean the core concept is invalid. We donât throw out entire spiritual ideas just because someone started a cult around them or manipulated people with them. There have been asshole Christians, but that doesnât discount the entire religion. The concept of twin flames is about balancing the masculine and feminine energies within yourself and recognizing that same balance in another person. When we let documentaries about scammers define what this connection is, weâre letting the worst examples speak for everyone.
People accept plenty of spiritual concepts without much scrutiny, but twin flames come up, and suddenly everyone wants proof because of some high-profile abuse cases. That doesnât really make sense - itâs just fear and sensationalism. A sign of an incredibly limited worldview from people who have never lived in a different country or read a history book.
I guess the real question is whether people are willing to look past the manipulation to see what others are genuinely experiencing. The masculine and feminine union, both internal and with someone else, shows up across different spiritual traditions.
Took me years to be able to accept it. I was always very closed to anything spiritual or religious, considering myself a very logical person. I still do, and that logic just confirms the journey to me now.
Is anything real?
The whole thing might be a simulation or a dream. Act in a way that serves your best good because youâll never know for sure.
What? Like the matrix or something? I think itâs so much more but thatâs only one persons opinion.
I think thereâs something real at the core of it, yeah. Itâs unfortunate how the concept gets twisted by manipulative groups, but when you strip away all the drama and cult-like stuff, what youâre looking at is pretty straightforward. Sometimes you meet someone who just operates on your wavelength. You know how some people burn hot, some burn slow? Every once in a while you meet someone whose rhythm matches yours. When someone just gets how you process the world, that recognition feels intense.
That moment when you realize another personâs energy aligns with yours in a way that feels both familiar and intense? Thatâs a real experience. Different cultures have described this for centuries. The experience people are having is real. Whether we need all the twin flame terminology around it, I donât know.
Im not a big fan of twin flame but something so profound as this kind of connection demands some sort of name attached to it. Itâs not about the verbiage as much as it is a way to reconcile the difference between what you describe and an actual twin relationship.
As someone who has never had an issue with walking away from any relationship or getting over heartbreak and disappointment, I have to say that for me, this experience is real. Too many spiritual experiences have happened to me along my journey for me to not believe that it is real. The terminology, Twin Flame or soulmate, to me is just a label. Spirituality, you know how this journey has changed you or awoken you to knowing there is a higher power somewhere out there
Also, I donât believe in coincidences; everything happens for a reason and there are too many people who have had similar experiences for me to believe it is just a mere coincidence. Yes, some people who think they are on this journey, may not be on this journey at all. And some who have already been on it for years may have absolutely no idea. I feel it boils down to what you believe and how it makes you feel. Each journey is different, but at the core, it is the same: a journey of self discovery, self love and acceptance. 
I think they exist, but the concept has become so diluted that itâs almost meaningless now. When something genuinely big and rare enters mainstream consciousness, it gets twisted beyond recognition. Everyone suddenly wants to claim theyâve found âthe oneâ and slap a spiritual label on it to make their connection feel more special or destined. Social media has turned reality into a constant competition to look like your life isnât a mess.
If youâre experiencing an authentic twin flame connection, youâre probably not spending your time trying to convince internet strangers or seeking validation through terminology. The experience itself would be so major and unmistakable that the label becomes secondary. I think it is why more of the experienced people here donât seem to care what others think.
What concerns me is how this misrepresentation affects genuine spiritual growth. When people chase labels instead of doing the inner work, they miss the entire point. Twin flames are about catalyzing transformation and serving a higher purpose, not just romantic obsession dressed up in mystical language. So yes, I believe the phenomenon is real, but finding it isnât about searching or forcing connections to fit a narrative. If such a connection exists for you, it unfolds naturally. The real question isnât whether theyâre real-itâs whether weâre ready to stop commodifying spiritual concepts and actually do the work.