Trying to stay busy, work on myself etc but feel so empty. My friend keeps sending me stupid FB reels and I’m thinking ugh go away. Can’t talk to anyone I know.
Music helps a lot at these times, especially if I can get a song that feels like this journey, like something by Sleep Token.
I went and had some solo time and felt my lips buzzing and also a vision of him doing likewise so that was nice but I hope this feeling passes soon. Trying to think of it as a process that’s evolving (caterpillar>chrysalis>butterfly) and it won’t be forever but it’s not pleasant.
Empathy with anyone else feeling this way. I remember when I first found out about Twin Flames and I basically read how we would be together for eternity and thought wow that sounds magical and incredible. And then I started reading more and it was all these stories of how hard it all is. And now I’m finding that out for myself.
This is how I like to think of it. How hard would you be willing to work for what you want? Everyone is different. You, me, your twin. There are some things you want but after a point you think it’s not really worth all this effort. I can do without it. There are others though when you say to yourself. “I don’t care what it takes I want it and I am willing to do anything to get it” So not only do you have to feel that way. So does your twin. Two people willing to work on themselves separately in order to come together as one. What are the odds of success? Thats part of why this is so hard. There is no guarantee you both will get there this time around but the work you are doing now will change you for the better and you will be happy and content no matter what. Your reward. Yours alone. You earned it. You worked and sacrificed to be a better human and even if your twin is going slower it has nothing to do with you when it comes to your own healing and blessings. This is your journey. You make the rules. You do the work. This is you and your time with spirit. Don’t ever forget that. Don’t ever forget these are your awards for your hard work. not your twins or anyone else for that matter. You and you alone are worthy of all you have earned now and in the future. I hope this makes a modicum of sense to you. I have a feeling you got this no matter though and that makes me happy.
Thanks for your comment. Yes that’s the thing I mean we’ve not mentioned a thing about this it’s like a huge elephant in the room. I was on the verge of saying something about the connection (not about TFs just something to break the ice) but I’ve not seen him for 6 weeks now and think he’s avoiding me just now. Any other time I’ve got up the courage to speak to him he’s chatted away happily but it’s so intense and sometimes we can’t manage beyond a hey.
So I’ll continue with my work. There’s just so many discrepancies about what that actually involves but I’ll try and do what I can. It’s still early days but I think I am doing good in finding out early on and already having done spiritual work in my life.
I ended up feeling much better later on, more uplifted (started having a much needed clear out of possessions) so I was relieved. I even had a big laughing fit at one point at all this! Because every once in a while I end up getting involved in something crazy and this must be the mother of them all (not that I have much choice). But laughing raises your vibration so it’s all good. What a roller coaster
I know that feeling. Regular connections friends etc just aren’t the same. I would love to hang out with him and just talk about all this. Deep conversations, it’s been so long since I had one of those IRL.
I feel this so much. That emptiness can be real, and of the things people don’t warn you about enough when you first discover this whole twin flame thing, definitely not on social media posts. You read about the magic, the “together for eternity” stuff, and then… here you are.
Separation sucks. I’m sure 99% of the forum has been where you are.
Your caterpillar/chrysalis/butterfly thing is actually spot on. This period is a transformation, whether it feels like it or not. The dark night of the soul is the fertile field of growth and transformation. The FB reels thing made me laugh a little. Sometimes people mean well, but they just… don’t get it, but don’t shut them out. Talk to them, lean on the people who are there for you.
You seem to understand what the process takes. Work your way through it and remember what is ahead of you.
That irritation is part of it, too. When you’re in this phase, regular life stuff feels almost offensive somehow? Like, how dare anyone expect you to care about random videos when THIS is happening inside you. Being apart from a mirror soul can feel like being ripped apart from yourself. It’s like losing a limb because, in a spiritual sense, you are. That’s why everything else feels so trivial.
The same intense burning love that makes a twin flame relationship so intense is the same thing that makes any split or separation so unbearable. The depth of what you felt is directly proportional to how hard this is. We’ve all been there.
Music is genuinely one of the best tools. It processes emotions that words can’t touch. Keep using whatever helps you move through it.. and yes, cut your friends some slack they mean well even if they don’t fully understand.
Do you think this could be the start of DNOTS? That does not sound fun. I’ve had ego death before (during plant medicine ceremony) but this sounds like multiple prolonged agonies.
Trying to trust the process.
I’ve not told my friend about what’s happening although she knows there’s someone at work but was a bit funny about it as he’s much younger. I did tell her I’m going through some spiritual stuff another time but not sure what she’d think about all this stuff. Lying or crazy most likely! She just sends me these reels and it’s not like looking at a photo it takes time and yes it does feel silly just now.
So I’ve not said a thing to anyone. I did make a couple comments to my mother about the universe’s ways and she responded in a negative fashion so I definitely won’t be telling her anything
Been having heart chakra pains today and I also woke up with lots of pains in my arms and body so don’t know if that’s related too.
I’ve been feeling the same way lately. Music saved me during my worst separation periods. Something about how it bypasses the brain and just… goes straight to whatever’s hurting.
‘The Power of Surrender’ by Judith Orloff talks about this a bit - why sometimes you just need to rest and that’s okay.
I’ll need to check out that song. Music is a balm to the soul. I’m currently grocery shopping with my elderly mother and she’s just had a go at me for listening to music in my car and wearing headphones in the supermarket. But she’s so draining I need it especially now.
There’s an old Sufi proverb that says ‘The heart must empty itself of everything but the beloved before it can truly be filled.’
I would try stream-of-consciousness journaling. You set a timer for 11 minutes, write without stopping to your twin’s higher self, and then burn the pages afterward as an energetic release. I also found Matt Kahn’s book ‘Whatever Arises, Love That’ helpful for when the emptiness felt unbearable. The burning ritual especially helped me move stuck energy when I couldn’t talk to anyone about what I was experiencing.
I wonder if some of the heaviness is coming from all the twin flame content itself - the timelines, guarantees, horror stories, reunion prophecies. That stuff can quietly sit on your chest and make the emptiness worse. I took a 30 day break from TF content (videos, readings, even some forums) and treated the connection as something private again, just between my heart, theirs, and Source.
It didn’t erase the longing, but the emptiness felt more like a quiet space than a void I had to keep filling with answers.
I’d need to go outside for the burning ritual and the weather’s not great just now but will see.
Re the TF content, I remember when I first found out about twin flames I said to myself right, I don’t want to get bogged down in all that, I just want to keep a clear head and find my way through. But then of course I needed support and advice and answers about things. So. I read some stuff. But yes it’s quite a lot at times. It’s even infiltrating my FB feed! So I might try and ease off a bit.
I really relate to that empty feeling. What’s helped me is repeating affirmations like ‘I am enough’ and ‘I release you’, sometimes even yelling them when I’m alone. The emptiness is hard to sit with. I’ve been trying to focus more on filling that space with things for myself rather than looking for someone else to complete me. Some days are better than others with it.
That’s a good idea doing affirmations. I really need to work on my shadow work too.
I’m at the office today and been getting touched by him for ages, he’s not here of course. It’s very nice but a tad distracting. HR person is sitting behind me lol.
I laugh about it all the time. Sometimes when I get a clarity moment I picture my angels slapping their head like finally!!! It makes me laugh every time.
