Most people don’t get what the twin flame experience feels like from the inside. I have friends who try to compare this to crushes or breakups they’ve got over and can’t understand why I can’t do the same.
I’ve tried to explain to them why this is different, but of course, they don’t understand. How could they really?
Imagine trying to explain how an aeroplane works to your cat.
They have no frame of reference for even beginning to understand what I’m talking about. They might have thought about someone they broke up with, but they don’t feel their presence 24/7, they don’t get chased around by crazy signs from the universe, and they don’t feel a pull that disrupts everything else in their life.
I don’t even know where I’d begin trying to explain this to someone.
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There was a great thread about this that I can’t quite find, but this one is close and worth reading.
I think the short of it is nobody else is ever really going to fully understand, but there will be some who can still support you even if they don’t fully understand it. It’s also the kind of journey that you should allow yourself to lean on other people.
Just try to remember that they don’t have a full frame of reference for it and that’s okay. They can still be there.
The cat and airplane analogy is spot on. It’s tough to explain because so many wild things happen at once, and each one sounds crazy on its own.
I quit explaining to most people. Watching them compare it to their last breakup was too frustrating, but I do agree it’s important to let those around you help. Don’t try to lock them out or hide it from them, but don’t try and force your ideas on them either. They want what is best for you, and it’s not uncommon to have different spiritual beliefs than other people. We can all still build each other up and support each others paths even if we don’t believe the same things.
Same with me. My friends look at the physical distance between us and assume that we are done with each other. They don’t get the point that we are still with each other. His presence, his love, his support is with me, always.
They compare it with some normal relationship and advice me to move on and find someone new. But they don’t get it… how am I supposed to move on when I feel him in the very essence of my existence!
It’s otherworldly… it’s beyond the normal. And they dont get it. Sometimes I find myself getting deviated from my path of healing because I follow their suggestions. I tend to forget that their advices and suggestions are most suited for the normal lovers but not us.
In this case, we can be the best judge of what is needed for us. Not that I blame my friends for their advices… I know they mean good for me. But I constantly remind myself to rely on my intuition rather than act upon their words.
Most people just can’t relate to this. You can’t explain constantly feeling someone’s presence or the universe chasing you with signs to someone whose only comparison is a regular breakup they got over in three weeks.
My DM told people he was scared by some of the things I wrote to him. I didn’t say anything when they told me, but inside my heart was breaking for him because I knew I had overwhelmed him and caused him to run. They thought I was cold because I was in shock and didn’t gush fake emotion on hearing about it.
People with no idea why either of us feel the way we do banged on at me for freaking him out when I genuinely had no such intention. He actually showed me more compassion in his fear than they did in their contemptuous ignorance. I felt as though they were telling me to “sit there and think about what I had done”. I was so angry. They will never know how it feels to live with this bond. As if I could ever want to hurt my twin on purpose. As if.
My friends and family think I’m nuts as it is. Telling them about my twin flame journey would be the nail in my sanity coffin. My mother thinks I live in la la land which makes me laugh. But she doesn’t realise it’s not rainbows and butterflies all the time that I’m really struggling with things but unfortunately they won’t understand.
Don’t expect anyone to get it. I would just use the word “soulmate” and that’s probably close enough because they won’t know the difference but it’ll point them in the right direction at least.
I’ve stopped trying to make people understand. Completely. My best friend eventually accepted it once I stopped having the “you need to move on” conversation every time. It can feel lonely if you need them to understand the details that they probably won’t so just let them meet you where they can. They don’t need the details.
I’ve just stopped trying to explain it. People hear “intense connection” and reduce it to a crush, something you get over with time and willpower.
I stopped trying to tell everyone about it, thinking it would help them, because really, it won’t change anything in their lives. I’ll answer if asked, but I’m not going to try to convince anyone. People are too caught up in their own bubble to really care anyway.
It’s eating me alive sometimes. This loneliness of it all.
People say things when they’re trying to help, and I appreciate that, but they’ll never really understand. So I just stopped talking about it. They don’t want to hear it anyway. And explaining feels pointless when they have zero frame of reference for what this actually is. Or what it does to you.
Feels like everyone’s advice made things worse. The more I tried to follow what friends and family were telling me, the further I got from understanding what was really going on between us. Other people just can’t guide you on something they’ve never lived through.
I don’t thnk anyone should be shutting people out though… just understand that they won’t have a full reference for this.
The more time I spend with my mother the more I realise I could never share this with her. She’d tell me not to be stupid, call my DM “that stupid bloke” etc. Speaking from previous experience when I’ve shared regular things with her and wished I’d kept my mouth shut.
I’m so sorry you go through this with your mother.
I endure something similar at work. My twin flame and boss seem to be each other’s nemesis. It’s a precarious tightrope to walk and I feel like I can never be anything other than neutral to him in front of my boss because they hate me being pleasant. It’s not nice having to hide your true self because people won’t understand and will criticise.
Of course mine is a boss not a parent, but I tried to find something else a couple of years ago and wasn’t offered anything. Got a feeling I’m stuck because the universe is saying I/we have things to learn for one reason or another and nothing will come up even if I try again.
That sounds like such a tough spot to deal with every day. Having to mask how you feel about your twin in front of someone who has authority over you must be exhausting. I know the feeling of having to dial yourself down around people who wouldn’t understand.
Even when I have to act neutral or distant in front of others, the energy between my twin and me doesn’t care about appearances. I can feel their energy from miles away, like a warm current running through me, no matter where either of us physically is.