Does anyone stalk their twin flames’ social media? Even if I unfollow them… I still always know what username to search.
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I live with mine, so I’m probably not the target of your question (though I do stalk her social anyway just because she is cute), but I thought I’d drop this in case you haven’t been reading it. Interesting discussion on chasing energy which might be relevant:
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No… we mutually block each other. For our own sakes for sure. The events leading to our separation (or friendship fallout as it looked on the outside) was the darkest time of my 26 years of life.
It was needed to heal myself out of codependency.
Yeah, most of us have been there at some point. Social media during separation creates this weird loop… you’re looking for answers or reassurance, but it usually just feeds the anxiety more.
When we constantly check their profiles, we’re often operating from insecurity and fear. The energy you put into stalking their feed could be redirected into actual healing work. Even basic stuff like meditation or journaling tends to help center those thoughts better than another scroll through their tagged photos. Separation is hard enough without adding the torment of interpreting every post or new follower. I’ve seen people spiral over a profile picture their twin posted, only to realize later it meant nothing.
What you see on social media is never the whole story anyway - most of what people post is curated, sometimes even intentional game playing.
You’re still connected to them energetically, regardless of whether you’ve hit their profile 10 times today. The urge to look is natural during separation, but learning to sit with that discomfort rather than acting on it is part of the process. Not saying I’ve mastered it or anything, just that it’s something I’ve noticed.
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Can definitely relate to this.
There’s a difference between casually looking at stuff someone publicly posted vs compulsively checking everything they do. A lot of people in TF spaces conflate the two. Looking at a public photo album someone deliberately shared isn’t really ‘stalking’.
That said, if you find yourself checking multiple times a day or going through their followers or tagged photos to find more info, that’s when it becomes… problematic. During separation, there’s already a lot of anxiety happening, and the constant checking tends to make that worse.
Separation can cause intense frustration for both twins, including the runner, btw. So when you’re already feeling that pull, social media makes it way too easy to act on it.
Unfollowing helps but yeah as you said, you still know where to look. Maybe try limiting exposure for a bit? Not as punishment, but just to give yourself space to actually feel what comes up instead of immediately numbing it with another check. Idk, easier said than done obviously.
Oh yeah, I think most people in this situation have done this at some point lol. You’re not alone. The fact that you’re even aware of the pattern is a good sign though.
Try not to be too hard on yourself about the checking. It’s human. But stepping back from the screen creates space for the energetic connection to flow more freely. I do think your paths will cross again when the timing aligns.
Yeah, during that really intense phase I was doing this constantly. These days I’m trying to redirect that energy elsewhere.
No, I deleted Facebook and Instagram about four years back so I wouldn’t even have the option to go searching. As for whether it’s normal to want to check up on them though… Yeah, I’d say that’s understandable. Whether it actually helps anything… that’s a whole different conversation.
Honestly I really try to resist the urge. Like what’s the point? It never makes me feel better, just worse, so I’m trying to stop myself from going down that rabbit hole.
I’ve trained myself not to look at his profile anywhere, like I refuse to give in to that urge. But I’d be lying if I said I don’t post stories and then immediately start watching to see if he’s viewed them.
Every single day. Yeah, I know it’s not the healthiest habit, but there are worse things out there.
What helped me notice it was getting unhealthy was the crash afterward. I’d check his stories, feel a quick high, and then spend hours spiraling into comparisons and ‘what ifs’ about my own life. Lately, when I get the urge to type his name into the search bar, I try to pause and ask myself what I’m actually avoiding. Sometimes it’s loneliness, sometimes boredom. I’ve been trying to write about that instead.
It doesn’t stop the urge, but it feels like I’m at least dealing with my own stuff instead of just staring at his page.
Does it mean anything if they suddenly switched to a private account right after we stopped talking? Trying to figure out if that’s a sign or just a coincidence.
Not nearly as often as I did before. I’ve been trying to avoid going down that rabbit hole because I don’t want to feed the obsession or stumble across something that’s gonna mess with my peace.
I feel guilty for doing it but go crazy if I don’t.
Yeah I definitely went through that phase but lately I’ve been trying not to check his profile. Still slip up sometimes but I’m trying to just do my own thing instead.
Honestly, the more you check up on them, the more you realize there’s stuff you still need to work through. Those childhood abandonment wounds showing up again. It doesn’t really matter what their follower count is. Having someone who actually wants to connect with you on a deep level is kind of rare, and maybe we didn’t learn to value that growing up.
Eventually, when both people’s egos settle down, they start seeing how much the other person matters. But usually it takes some drama first, like seeing them with someone else, to trigger all those old feelings we’re still carrying from way back.
My twin doesn’t actually have social media at all, but I’d be lying if I said I haven’t gone down the rabbit hole checking out his family members on Facebook more than a few times.
I’ve been there too. The constant checking was exhausting and just kept me stuck.
I accepted that I don’t need to know what they’re doing all the time. Once I stopped searching their username, things got a little easier. Still hard, but easier.
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