I just want normal stuff at this point. Hearing his voice in the morning, sitting across from him at breakfast, having him actually be in the same room. The connection is real, but I’m kinda over synchronicities today. I want the boring parts, disagreements about nothing, inside jokes that don’t make sense to anyone else. Building something together day by day instead of just. feeling it from a distance.
Why would the universe show me this kind of love and then not let me have it?
If this is as important as it feels, shouldn’t we get to actually live it? In the regular human way. That’s where I keep landing
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I know it is hard. You are not alone in going through it, we’ve all been there.
As for why you have to go through it, read these. Understanding is the best thing you can give yourself, you are just sitting and hoping for things to change.
Spirit isn’t trying to torment you. Not trying to make things hard. As much as it sucks right now, it’s offering you an opportunity at something great. Something that most people can only ever really imagine.
Your pain at the moment is valid, but don’t let it stop you.
This connection happens before the two of you even make real 3D contact. The energetic stuff has been happening across lifetimes. So when we finally meet and then get separated, it’s almost like we’re going backwards, which is confusing as hell. Separation creates such an uncomfortable inner environment that you literally have no choice but to reconcile with it and approach life differently. It shifts everything. Pain forces growth.
I know that doesn’t make it suck less right now, but that’s why it happens.
The runner/chaser thing is exhausting. One person gets overwhelmed by the intensity and walks away. But both roles end up being necessary for healing. The runner fears losing themselves in this connection and they withdraw without even fully understanding why. Meanwhile, chasers all go through exactly what you’re feeling now.
Union is about merging spiritually and emotionally. Two souls aligning for a shared mission. Sometimes I think we cycle through these stages multiple times before anything sticks. The path isn’t linear.
But yeah. I hear you about wanting the actual lived thing. The dishes and disagreements and all of it.
Your frustration makes complete sense. Wanting the mundane everyday parts of love is so human and so valid.
Separation stage exists to allow each partner to work on themselves individually. It’s a testing period to cleanse and align the twin flames energetically. Each twin gets to face their own challenges and grow before coming back together. In 5D you can feel their emotions, have telepathic communication, experience unity. But 3D is our tangible reality, where physical union happens. It’s also where all the triggers and baggage live.
The longing you’re feeling becomes your fuel for connecting with higher consciousness and stepping into your own purpose. Maybe the timing is about both of you becoming ready to actually hold it in the 3D way you’re describing. The inside jokes. The shared mornings.
I don’t know if that helps or just sounds like more of the same stuff you’ve probably already heard.
But maybe it helps to look at it this way: we are not human beings having a spiritual experience, we are infinite spiritual beings (souls) having a human experience right now.
Why, and for what purpose? Perhaps to better understand what we truly are, what infinity and unconditional love actually mean.
In our human lives it naturally feels very different, because the mind has a lot to say and often takes the lead.
Why do we go through these human incarnations at all? Maybe so that, as infinite souls filled with unconditional love, we can truly understand what that love means. And sometimes the only way to understand it is by first experiencing its absence.
We have to move through pain in order to recognize ourselves more deeply as souls. And for our infinite nature, a single human life is just a very brief moment, a short experience meant to help us understand the greater whole a little better.
And so I sometimes think that when Union finally happens, maybe after many incarnations, there may simply be no need to return to Earth as humans again….but maybe there are other lessons to learn after that, who really knows?
Still, I like to imagine that whatever comes next, after Union, we at least get to go through the next lessons, with our Twin, together.
