I’m curious what people think of this. Can you move on from and forget about your twin flame? Has that happened to anyone? I would assume if it had, you probably wouldn’t still be here to answer the question but I figured I would ask.
Can you just forget about them and get on with your life with a soulmate or stay single forever?
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This is one of those things where you ask 10 different people and get 13 different answers. It would also depend on what you mean by ‘move on’.
Personally, I don’t think you are ever “done” with your twin. I always thought of myself as having the ability to cut bait, and I’ve walked away from a three-year relationship with a karmic without batting an eye.
But I can’t imagine ever actually moving on from my twin. Even if it doesn’t work in this lifetime, I think you’re destined to come around again.
But people have got more into it here (I would read that thread):
Some people go through separations lasting years and don’t move on. Some of the success stories have couples who come in and out of each other’s lives over long time periods and find each other in the end.
This is also worth reading:
This is how I feel. Even if I stop chasing I don’t see how I could just forget them or try to have a life without them…
I’ve talked to a couple of people who have ‘moved on’ and seem genuinely happy, but they’d still tell you the connection is always there on some level. The bond is permanent even when the relationship isn’t, if that makes sense?
Twin flames can let go of each other in the short term, and the connection plays out over multiple lifetimes anyway. So even if you fully walk away now… you’re still connected across the larger timescale of your journey. The relatively short time we’re in this body doesn’t mean as much in the bigger picture.
It feels like it means everything because it is all we are consciously aware of right now, but the journey is far bigger than that. I do think you can have a good life with a soulmate. I won’t tell you that I think it is the same by any stretch, but I don’t know your situation or what is right for your life. Personally, I could never even imagine being able to give up and move on. My separation didn’t last as long as some of the stories I’ve heard, so maybe I’m just lucky.
But forget about them completely? I’m not sure that’s possible. The connection doesn’t just disappear because you want it to. You can stop obsessing, stop waiting around, build a whole new life, but that deep bond tends to remain somewhere in the background.
There’s no easy answer to this one tbh.
I think you CAN move on in practical terms - date other people, build a life, find genuine happiness. There’s nothing wrong with that and sometimes it’s the right call. If focusing on them is holding you back from your own progress, then letting go makes sense. Your intuition usually knows when it’s time. But a lot of people let go and move on (or try to), and that surrender stage triggers something. Sometimes the runner/chaser dynamic reverses, sometimes it just gives both people space to heal and grow before potentially reconnecting later.
Things don’t tend to move on the timeline we expect or just wait around for.
Probably not realistic to completely forget and move on though. That would be like moving on from both your arms. Even if it happens, at least once a day you’re going to remember that time you had arms. But you can reach a point where you want to start living life for yourself again and accept that you can’t control when or if union will happen. Staying stuck in limbo waiting forever isn’t doing you any favors.
Then my advice would be to function as if you can move on. The chasing thread you linked pretty much could be summed up like that.
Same end result 
Short answer: Can you move on? Yes. Can you fully forget? Probably not.
The TF connection exists at such a deep soul level that it doesn’t just “switch off”. They’re your mirror soul, two halves that were once one. That kind of bond transcends time and space and endures enduring across multiple lifetimes.
… It can endure you trying a Tinder date.
The whole point of this connection is spiritual growth and self-discovery. Your twin flame is a reflection of your own inner work. Letting go can mean accepting that it might not manifest how you hoped, at least in this lifetime. New relationships don’t replace that bond, they’re just… different chapters.
One thing worth considering: are you actually wanting to forget, or just wanting the pain to stop? Because those are two different things. Healing can help decrease how much you think about them, and you can create new positive memories. But the soul recognition piece is always gonna be there somewhere.
Don’t rush it either. Everyone’s timeline is different here.
For me, I’ve decided to stay steadfast in my feelings. I genuinely don’t want to move on, and even without union or another relationship, nothing feels missing from my life.
That’s the thing though - how exactly are you supposed to move on from someone who’s literally the other half of your soul?
You don’t move on. You let go of the toxic relationship you and your twin are or were presently in. The healed version of you will no longer tolerate less than you deserve so going back to what you had, even if there were plenty of good bits is no longer possible. Once you let that go you make room for what you truly deserve. Absolutely none of that is easy though. Honestly there isn’t one easy thing about this. Hell, the mental gymnastics alone are exhausting.
I resonate with the feeling. All this love with nowhere to go - so maybe the answer is finding new channels for that energy in the meantime.
I tried to move on by forgetting completely. I blocked out almost everything - our memories, the connection, all of it. I only remembered he was my first boyfriend and the love of my life. Maybe a couple of times a month he would pop into my head but I wouldn’t be fixated on him.
Then, after three failed relationships and crying out to heaven asking why, I had a dream of him. Woke up still feeling someone holding my hand. Suddenly, all the memories came flooding back, the good, the bad, everything.
Forgetting wasn’t moving on. I still love him exactly like I did back then. It’s still not done.
So to answer your question… I don’t think you can truly forget. You might bury it deep enough to function, but it’s still there waiting.
The point is union. Otherwise there is no point. Right?
I’ve accepted that you can build a full life, find happiness elsewhere, even fall in love with someone else. But that thread between you and them doesn’t just dissolve, no matter how much distance you put between you.
I keep going back and forth on this. Some people here have been married to someone else for decades and they still feel it. So maybe you can’t fully move on?
But then again, getting close enough might be enough? I don’t know. I guess it comes down to whether you could live with still feeling that connection underneath everything else, even if you’ve technically moved on in every other way.
One thing not many people mention is how your daily routines can gently retrain your energy away from obsessive focus. Intentionally creating new firsts without your twin - new cafes, new hobbies, even new morning rituals - teaches your body that safety and joy exist outside that bond.
Over time, you start weaving your own thread back into the mix of life.
You can have a life without them, but you can’t ever forget.
I think if you can ever just forget them, they were never really your twin flame.
It is one of those things where you see people talking about twin flames on social media, like they wish they could find their twin flame… really they just mean they want a boyfriend/girlfriend because nobody can possibly want the real thing. They don’t know what they’re asking for to go through the pain of this sometimes.
Maybe if I could just stay present instead of constantly drifting back to him, I’d finally have some peace. At this point, I’d try almost anything to stop my mind from going there.
At this point of my journey, I think if you do “get over” your Twin, they probably weren’t your Twin to begin with.
I’ve tried everything, and I think my Twin did too, to move on, to try to forget, to just live our lives and erase what happened between us. We just came out of a 10 month no contact phase and have been speaking sporadically. Then today, after a brief phone call, he texted me simply, “I miss you”. Proof that time is only linear, and you can try your best to erase the connection, but if you’re truly on the TF journey. Nothing. No time, space, distance, karmic connections, can erase the bond you share with your Twin. We have a long ways to go but I’m taking each day as it comes 