What if Twin Flame is In Other Relationships?

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Sorry if this is too personal to lead with, but how do you all actually cope when your twin flame is in other relationships? I know we just had the thread about you both being married, but what if it isn’t that bad and they are just with a karmic or a soulmate at the moment?

Even if I know that it should be temporary and this will pass… does anyone have any advice on how to cope or what I can do to make this easier? I don’t want to think about them together but sometimes I just get glimpses or flashes and I don’t want them. I was not prepared for how hard that hit. Like at all. Knowing something in the back of your mind is one thing, but actually seeing it with your own eyes… whole different experience.

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Hello there. That is a really good question and I fear one too few if the participants in the discussions here wanna deal with. But this doesn’t make it disappear or lighten the burden in any way, shape, or form. Or at least, I think so. So, what if s/he is in another relationship and being married, possibly with children? The straightest answer you will find here would be something along the lines…well, your love is true and it doesn’t vanish just because your other half is in relationship, you should distance yourself from them, do you own inner work, even go into relationships yourself, and, my favorite, love will always find a way so just be patient and do your part of the mission. And while I do think all of these advises help, I do really want (in the bottom of my heart) to just cry to the sky and erase this cord connecting us when I know my twin Flame is married to someone else and they are relatively happy in their lives. And the thing is, I believe, I’m not alone in this desire, am I? So, what do you do when your Twin Flame is married or simply in other relationship?

First, I advise you to stay calm. I know you blood is possibly boiling and you can’t find your place in the world but just staying calm in this eventuality is possibly the best thing for you to do. Keep a cool head and try to ensure your reason dominates your behavior rather than your feelings.

Second, find about the true cause for their relationship. Yeah, that is the hardest part right there but if you are truly spiritually aware enough to reach out to your Twin Flame through telepathy or any other Soul binding means you should be able to “unearth” this information. That part where they themselves will show why they have preferred this partner for this lifetime and what is really missing in you to begin with. And this is the part you actually need the most, although it will probably hurt like hell. If you manage to figure out why your own Twin Flame has chosen someone different than you you would have the knowledge of what to change inside yourself to get him/her back. At least, that is how it should work in theory. Of course, the reality may be that you simply can’t change anything in this lifetime-you lack awareness, socioeconomical status, right body feature or anything that your Twin has discovered in the person they are with and you would lose them no matter what you do or will do. In such a case the best advice I have for you is to simply try and lock away that connection as much as possible, set up new goals in your life and work it out somehow from there on. I know it’s difficult but there isn’t an easy path for you either. But just knowing what you don’t have enough to reach union may be that extra push you will need to somehow order your live around it.

Third, if, and only if, you have that strength in you to actually face your demons and rebuilt yourself from scratch, I would advice you to act on what you have learned in the previous paragraph and just start pushing through with that knowledge to remake yourself into the man/woman your Twin Flame desperately desires. I know that is the most difficult thing to ask anyone about and that you have a pretty good chance of failing/falling overboard with it, but I would argue that is the only option you actually have if you want to keep any chance of reuniting with your Twin Flame without causing a massive locomotion. (You will no doubt cause some locomotion as there is a relationship standing on your way, but the more aware you are what you actually had to do to reach union with your Twin Flame and more of the “job” to correct yourself you have actually done the less that locomotion will be.) It’s the most heavy duty path of them all, but it’s also your true chance and path to union. So, what I would recommend in the end is to keep your cools up, go through hell to understand what actually went wrong between you two to begin with, and act on that information to remake yourself in order to fix it. It is kind of inner work that you will have to do, although that is what the spiritual teachers would most likely NOT recommend you to do since it does involves quite a lot of attachment as well as getting into other person’s businesses, but in the end, if you truly love him/her, that is what it will take for you to make it work. Yes, I believe you do have the strength to break through the chains of destiny but only if you are willing to put it ALL on the line and remake yourself to the fullest. And with that strike on HOPE amongst it all I will end this already pretty long response. Take it or leave it, but I do think what was meant to last beyond time cannot be replaced by what was woven by the material matrix trapping our consciousnesses in this physical form! So, choose your actions wisely.

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Deleted my social media apps completely. Had to.

Every time I scrolled, it was either something that reminded me of them or actually seeing them with their new person, and that just made everything harder.

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Twin flames are often (not always, but often) in other relationships when they meet because that level of readiness and evolution tends to attract other people.

Your twin bond is constant, energies linking every second even in separation. That telepathic connection doesn’t shut off just because they’re with someone else, so you pick up stuff you don’t want: dreams, emotional waves, flashes, even physical anxiety. All the same channel.

Karmics are temporary by design. They settle karma, teach lessons, burn hot then fizzle. Totally different energy from twins; full of friction and compromise, never sustainable.

Hang in there. This sucks, but it passes.

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Been exactly where you are. Word for word. A couple things that helped me reframe it: Half of twin flame stories (maybe more) involve one twin in another relationship early on or during separation. It’s super common in the community, even if it feels like hell.

Karmics settle past-life debts. They’re intense and familiar at first, but full of conflict, control, toxic cycles. They’re meant to break your twin open for healing before union. They always burn out. Soulmates are calmer and complementary. Nothing matches twin flame depth. That’s soul-level.

Those flashes are twin flame telepathy. It often amps up in separation when your souls connect without 3D noise, bleeding through as visions. Energies exchange nonstop.

Practical advice: Give them space to process. You can’t reason someone out of a karmic. Interfering creates bad karma and hurts you more. Focus on your own healing. That high vibe radiates through the bond, aware or not. I know it doesn’t kill the pain tonight.

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The longing stays. No matter what, no matter who else is around, it just lives in you.

Dating others can shift your focus for a while, and it did help me stay more present day-to-day. But your twin is in your heart regardless. That part doesn’t change.

The most you can do is keep pulling yourself back to the moment you’re actually in… over and over again.

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During the last full moon I finally just… surrendered. Let him do what he wants, stop trying to control it. Honestly, nothing you can do about their decisions anyway. That took me a while to accept. I trust the connection. What we have feels different, and I know everyone says that, but it’s the reason I can release him and not spiral. (Most days.)

Has anyone else noticed their ability to let go fluctuates with the lunar cycle though? New moons I find it way easier to release. Full moons the pull gets almost unbearable, like something is physically tugging at my chest.

Express your concern, share how you feel, but then let it go. That’s really all any of us can do. Not that it’s easy.

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I feel as you feel @rose-garden. The night of the eclipse, I wrote a letter to him saying goodbye and I’ll always love him, then I burnt it. As I watched the smoke float towards the sky, I felt a sense of calm. Even right up to this point as I am writing this, I am confident in my decision to just let go. Nothing I say or do will be heard by him if he is not open to listening, and as far as I can tell, he’s definitely not open. I’m done accepting breadcrumbs and sporadic communication while walking on eggshells. It’s been a tiring 5 months, but I’m ready to let go of this regardless of where it takes me

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Seeing them with someone else is just… different. Knife to the heart. Knowing about it is one thing, but actually witnessing it forced something in me to shift. I had no choice but to finally prioritize myself, my needs, my own healing, over everything else including him.

I’m still doing the self-love work. Still hurting. Not going to pretend otherwise.

Somewhere in this whole long messy process I started learning things about myself that I genuinely could not have accessed any other way. It’s a weird thing to be grateful for while you’re still in pain. Maybe that’s part of the mission work, though. The growth we have to do separately before we can actually show up for what we’re meant to do as a pair.

I’ve tried a bunch of things to cope and found a few that actually help if anyone wants to compare notes.

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@velvet_touch, I’d be interested in the coping methods you found helpful. In case this is interesting for others, too, would you like to open a new thread where we can collect what works for us?

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First thing to remember is that their partner is doing no wrong here. Sometimes it is tempting to blame them for “getting in the way” but you might well have been the karmic in the way of someone else’s journey in the past.

They’re not wrong. They’re not evil. Don’t blame them.

It sucks, but the truth is that whether your TF is single or dating someone else, it doesn’t change what you should be doing. Do the work. Further your own path. It doesn’t actually matter what they’re doing at the moment.

The sooner you can feel that, the sooner you’ll see real change.

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When your twin’s in another relationship and you’re long-distance, your nervous system has zero reality checks. Every silence spins a story. Delayed texts become full scenes your mind directs, with dramatic music, and you just let it play from 4,000 miles away.

If they are with a karmic right now it is a good thing (even when it probably doesn’t feel like it). Youneed them to learn something from them so they’re ready to move on with you.

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Sounds a lot like the situation I’m in. Long distance (completely different countries). Sporadic contact for 5 months, now back to no contact. Nearly 3 years of this. We reconnected in July 2023. And here we are. He’s married. Nearly every single impossible circumstance. That’s what I’m facing now. Yet since deciding to just walk away, there is a sense of peace now that I never thought I’d find. The love for him has not disappeared but that anxious longing and overthinking has disappeared. I guess I’ll see what the universe has in store for us

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Letting go is the loving thing sometimes. Just… releasing.

When you really love someone, you allow them the freedom to find their own happiness even when that happiness exists alongside someone else. That part is brutal, I know. But trusting their path while you tend to your own heart, that’s what it looks like.

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I have an interesting story, because when I first met my twin, I was married with, count them, 5 chikdren, and he was not. He is 10 years younger than I, and was just fresh out of college and had a girlfriend. HE came up to ME and said “I feel like I have known you 20 years.” I looked at him like he was nuts, because I was not spiritual at all. I saw him as a little kid, because he was 29 and I was 39.

However, as time went on, the energies began to match up and we became close coworkers and friends. But I still did not know he was my twin. (Oblivious).

He finally married his long time girlfriend 7 years later. Almost exactly 1 year later, my husband passed away.

My twin came to my husband’s funeral. Drove two hours to get there, even. It was like he could physically feel my pain.

Shortly thereafter was our first separation. I felt abandoned - he was my friend. After crying, I went on but I never forgot him. That was my dark night of the soul.

A year after that, he came back to the job and THAT was when the universe went to work. The magnetic attraction. The sizzling electric touch when I shook his hand. Telepathy started. My heart was pounding. He starting acting crazy, walking past my office 85 times a day. He nervously kept talking about his wife. I thought I would faint.

Then.he left again, for a new career. Separation #2. This time, I felt it. I got very spiritual. The chakras started to line up, and all of the sudden I could feel his feelings. Once the root chakras connected, I started feeling his arousal. Then the telepathic sex started.

Now, he has cut off all communication - he asked me quite rudely not to email him because “he doesn’t read them” - the whole nine yards. Now I’m constantly in telepathic connection and communication, and having daily tekepathic sex with, a man who now refuses to give me the time of day.

He’s still married and has started his own business. I am still widowed and don’t want to date - although I’ve been told to.

The point is this - these journeys are SLOW and the energies TAKE TIME to align. I know my twin EIGHT YEARS before all the megnetic attraction, etc. You can make the energies align faster by using the blueprint.

But he will not leave his spouse in the 3D, until the 5D is fixed. It may hurt, but it’s the truth. She is his karmic lesson, and he simply hasn’t learned his lesson yet.

Good Luck.

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They feel the negative energy from jealousy spiritually, even if they can’t pinpoint why things feel off.

I’ve shifted to genuinely wishing mine well, hoping he’s healthy and growing in self-love. Sounds counterintuitive when you’re hurting, but these triggers show unloved parts of ourselves. Gratitude for that can lead to real expansion.

Union before you’re both ready just breeds torment and obsession. Individual lessons and karma come first. Their partner is part of the divine plan (took me forever to accept).

Expanding your heart instead of contracting in fear is true self-love. Still working on it myself, tbh.

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Sometimes you just have to accept it. Even if they’re your twin, they might not be ready for you right now. As much as it hurts we have to get on with our own side of things.

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My DM is with someone else. They seem happy, so I think it is a soulmate not a karmic, but I just try to see it for what it is in the big picture.

Somewhere along the way I stopped fearing life without him and started actually being okay with how things played out. I’m genuinely happy he found his soulmate now, no resentment at all, because that’s where he needs to be right now.

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Found out a week ago that my twin is dating someone else, and that it’s been going on for at least four months. It was bloody obvious in retrospect, but I wasn’t letting myself look at it. And I’m still trying to figure out why it hurts so damned much. A month before this relationship started he told me he wasn’t ready for a romantic relationship with anyone (i.e. not just me), and I’m at a point where it feels like he is consistently choosing everything except our connection, over and over again. I genuinely want him to find what he needs for his own healing, and I believe this person may be a part of that… but it is still intensely painful.

It has definitely accompanied a new phase of growth for me, and to me finally communicating some things to him that I have been putting off due to a very old wound that tells me my feelings need to be buried for fear of hurting those I love. I’d known for a while that I needed to confront that wound, and this new piece of painful information was the trigger for my finally doing so. So I can already see that it is potentially shifting things in an important way for both of us.

But it still bloody hurts. I feel sick thinking about it, and I don’t want that feeling, for either of us.

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