What if Twin Flame is In Other Relationships?

Sorry if this is too personal to lead with, but how do you all actually cope when your twin flame is in other relationships? I know we just had the thread about you both being married, but what if it isn’t that bad and they are just with a karmic or a soulmate at the moment?

Even if I know that it should be temporary and this will pass… does anyone have any advice on how to cope or what I can do to make this easier? I don’t want to think about them together but sometimes I just get glimpses or flashes and I don’t want them. I was not prepared for how hard that hit. Like at all. Knowing something in the back of your mind is one thing, but actually seeing it with your own eyes… whole different experience.

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Hello there. That is a really good question and I fear one too few if the participants in the discussions here wanna deal with. But this doesn’t make it disappear or lighten the burden in any way, shape, or form. Or at least, I think so. So, what if s/he is in another relationship and being married, possibly with children? The straightest answer you will find here would be something along the lines…well, your love is true and it doesn’t vanish just because your other half is in relationship, you should distance yourself from them, do you own inner work, even go into relationships yourself, and, my favorite, love will always find a way so just be patient and do your part of the mission. And while I do think all of these advises help, I do really want (in the bottom of my heart) to just cry to the sky and erase this cord connecting us when I know my twin Flame is married to someone else and they are relatively happy in their lives. And the thing is, I believe, I’m not alone in this desire, am I? So, what do you do when your Twin Flame is married or simply in other relationship?

First, I advise you to stay calm. I know you blood is possibly boiling and you can’t find your place in the world but just staying calm in this eventuality is possibly the best thing for you to do. Keep a cool head and try to ensure your reason dominates your behavior rather than your feelings.

Second, find about the true cause for their relationship. Yeah, that is the hardest part right there but if you are truly spiritually aware enough to reach out to your Twin Flame through telepathy or any other Soul binding means you should be able to “unearth” this information. That part where they themselves will show why they have preferred this partner for this lifetime and what is really missing in you to begin with. And this is the part you actually need the most, although it will probably hurt like hell. If you manage to figure out why your own Twin Flame has chosen someone different than you you would have the knowledge of what to change inside yourself to get him/her back. At least, that is how it should work in theory. Of course, the reality may be that you simply can’t change anything in this lifetime-you lack awareness, socioeconomical status, right body feature or anything that your Twin has discovered in the person they are with and you would lose them no matter what you do or will do. In such a case the best advice I have for you is to simply try and lock away that connection as much as possible, set up new goals in your life and work it out somehow from there on. I know it’s difficult but there isn’t an easy path for you either. But just knowing what you don’t have enough to reach union may be that extra push you will need to somehow order your live around it.

Third, if, and only if, you have that strength in you to actually face your demons and rebuilt yourself from scratch, I would advice you to act on what you have learned in the previous paragraph and just start pushing through with that knowledge to remake yourself into the man/woman your Twin Flame desperately desires. I know that is the most difficult thing to ask anyone about and that you have a pretty good chance of failing/falling overboard with it, but I would argue that is the only option you actually have if you want to keep any chance of reuniting with your Twin Flame without causing a massive locomotion. (You will no doubt cause some locomotion as there is a relationship standing on your way, but the more aware you are what you actually had to do to reach union with your Twin Flame and more of the “job” to correct yourself you have actually done the less that locomotion will be.) It’s the most heavy duty path of them all, but it’s also your true chance and path to union. So, what I would recommend in the end is to keep your cools up, go through hell to understand what actually went wrong between you two to begin with, and act on that information to remake yourself in order to fix it. It is kind of inner work that you will have to do, although that is what the spiritual teachers would most likely NOT recommend you to do since it does involves quite a lot of attachment as well as getting into other person’s businesses, but in the end, if you truly love him/her, that is what it will take for you to make it work. Yes, I believe you do have the strength to break through the chains of destiny but only if you are willing to put it ALL on the line and remake yourself to the fullest. And with that strike on HOPE amongst it all I will end this already pretty long response. Take it or leave it, but I do think what was meant to last beyond time cannot be replaced by what was woven by the material matrix trapping our consciousnesses in this physical form! So, choose your actions wisely.

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Deleted my social media apps completely. Had to.

Every time I scrolled, it was either something that reminded me of them or actually seeing them with their new person, and that just made everything harder.

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Twin flames are often (not always, but often) in other relationships when they meet because that level of readiness and evolution tends to attract other people.

Your twin bond is constant, energies linking every second even in separation. That telepathic connection doesn’t shut off just because they’re with someone else, so you pick up stuff you don’t want: dreams, emotional waves, flashes, even physical anxiety. All the same channel.

Karmics are temporary by design. They settle karma, teach lessons, burn hot then fizzle. Totally different energy from twins; full of friction and compromise, never sustainable.

Hang in there. This sucks, but it passes.

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Been exactly where you are. Word for word. A couple things that helped me reframe it: Half of twin flame stories (maybe more) involve one twin in another relationship early on or during separation. It’s super common in the community, even if it feels like hell.

Karmics settle past-life debts. They’re intense and familiar at first, but full of conflict, control, toxic cycles. They’re meant to break your twin open for healing before union. They always burn out. Soulmates are calmer and complementary. Nothing matches twin flame depth. That’s soul-level.

Those flashes are twin flame telepathy. It often amps up in separation when your souls connect without 3D noise, bleeding through as visions. Energies exchange nonstop.

Practical advice: Give them space to process. You can’t reason someone out of a karmic. Interfering creates bad karma and hurts you more. Focus on your own healing. That high vibe radiates through the bond, aware or not. I know it doesn’t kill the pain tonight.

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The longing stays. No matter what, no matter who else is around, it just lives in you.

Dating others can shift your focus for a while, and it did help me stay more present day-to-day. But your twin is in your heart regardless. That part doesn’t change.

The most you can do is keep pulling yourself back to the moment you’re actually in… over and over again.

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During the last full moon I finally just… surrendered. Let him do what he wants, stop trying to control it. Honestly, nothing you can do about their decisions anyway. That took me a while to accept. I trust the connection. What we have feels different, and I know everyone says that, but it’s the reason I can release him and not spiral. (Most days.)

Has anyone else noticed their ability to let go fluctuates with the lunar cycle though? New moons I find it way easier to release. Full moons the pull gets almost unbearable, like something is physically tugging at my chest.

Express your concern, share how you feel, but then let it go. That’s really all any of us can do. Not that it’s easy.

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I feel as you feel @rose-garden. The night of the eclipse, I wrote a letter to him saying goodbye and I’ll always love him, then I burnt it. As I watched the smoke float towards the sky, I felt a sense of calm. Even right up to this point as I am writing this, I am confident in my decision to just let go. Nothing I say or do will be heard by him if he is not open to listening, and as far as I can tell, he’s definitely not open. I’m done accepting breadcrumbs and sporadic communication while walking on eggshells. It’s been a tiring 5 months, but I’m ready to let go of this regardless of where it takes me

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Seeing them with someone else is just… different. Knife to the heart. Knowing about it is one thing, but actually witnessing it forced something in me to shift. I had no choice but to finally prioritize myself, my needs, my own healing, over everything else including him.

I’m still doing the self-love work. Still hurting. Not going to pretend otherwise.

Somewhere in this whole long messy process I started learning things about myself that I genuinely could not have accessed any other way. It’s a weird thing to be grateful for while you’re still in pain. Maybe that’s part of the mission work, though. The growth we have to do separately before we can actually show up for what we’re meant to do as a pair.

I’ve tried a bunch of things to cope and found a few that actually help if anyone wants to compare notes.

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velvet_touch, I’d be interested in the coping methods you found helpful. In case this is interesting for others, too, would you like to open a new thread where we can collect what works for us?

First thing to remember is that their partner is doing no wrong here. Sometimes it is tempting to blame them for “getting in the way” but you might well have been the karmic in the way of someone else’s journey in the past.

They’re not wrong. They’re not evil. Don’t blame them.

It sucks, but the truth is that whether your TF is single or dating someone else, it doesn’t change what you should be doing. Do the work. Further your own path. It doesn’t actually matter what they’re doing at the moment.

The sooner you can feel that, the sooner you’ll see real change.

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